Archive: May, 2010

May 27, 2010

Bringing Sexy Back

What makes someone sexy?  Is it appearance, attitude, experience, confidence?  We know sexy when we see it, right?  And, people aren’t born sexy, so that means you can probably learn to be sexy or learn to feel sexy right?  It might seem hard with all of the things on your to do list or your stress, or your dislike of certain body parts or your worry that you can’t live up to celebrities’ appearances…but you CAN boost your sexual confidence!

Here are a few things you can work on:

  • Know your body – Forget the things you used to hate about it, explore your body as if you are seeing it for the first time.  Learn what you love and what feels good.  If you know what gives you pleasure you can share that with your lover.  Have a little “naked time.”  Whether it’s sleeping or lounging, spending time in the buff can help put you in touch with your body.
  • Work your body – Get some exercise.  You’ll get those endorphins going and you will tighten areas and stretch others. If you don’t like your body, getting some activity can help improve the way it looks or feels.   In particular, find something that feels good.  Try a zumba class, you can work up a sweet while shaking your groove thing.  Find a dance class or some other form of movement that makes you feel good about your body.
  • Love your body -  How often do you ignore the compliments you receive?  Or worse, replace the compliments with something you hate about yourself!  It’s time to stop doing that and really hear the compliments you receive.  In addition, do things that make you feel sexy.  Get your hair done, put on some lingerie or buy some new clothes.

If you would like a little boost to your sexual confidence, try one thing from each category this week: know your body, work your body and love your body.  When you are feeling a little more sexually confident check back here because next up I’m writing about Talking Dirty!  Once you feel more confident it will be easier to whisper (or growl) those sexy sentiments to your lover!

Filed under: Intimacy, Sexuality — admin @ 12:12 am

May 18, 2010

Shopping for Singles

When preparing for a show geared toward single women for Studio6, the number one question I received is, “Where can I meet someone?”  I did a little informal polling with people who are in a relationships and the top I answers I received are: a bar, work, through friends and online.

I think some times people would like that “magic place” you can go.  I can tell you where you can find men…but that doesn’t mean those places are the best places for you to find YOUR mate.  You can go to a sporting event and there will be men there, but if you pretend you like sports just to meet men, what will you tell you husband years from now when he wonders why you don’t like basketball anymore?  Now if you like sports, by all means, go and see if you can find someone who entices you.

The best place to meet someone is at a place that interests you.  If you love art, go to a museum or take a class and if you meet someone there, you will have mutual interests that last a lifetime.  (And even if you don’t meet someone there, you will be doing something you love!)  Where ever you go, be open.  That doesn’t mean you have to get dolled up every time you leave your house and constantly be on the lookout for Mr. Right.  There is a difference between being open and being desperate.  Being open means you have a willingness.  You are still living your life and doing things you love and you are also looking around you and you are open to possibility.  If you go to a coffee shop and you aren’t open, you sit in the corner and read a book.  If you are open, you will talk to people (even saying “Hi” is a great conversation starter.)

Rather than looking for a new place to find someone, look at the places you already go.  Could you be missing out on an opportunity because you are buried behind a book, engrossed in a conversation with a girlfriend or plugged into your IPod?  This week look at the world with new, undistracted eyes and see if you “see” anything differently.

Filed under: Dating — admin @ 5:17 am

May 13, 2010

May Newsletter – Five Small Things You Can Do To Improve Your Relationship

You can find my May Newsletter here.  And if you want to find out what I have to say in June (here’s a little teaser, I will be writing you from the City of Love!) make sure you subscribe to my monthly newsletter and it will come right to your inbox.

Filed under: Intimacy, Newsletter, Relationship — admin @ 5:48 am

May 6, 2010

Being a mom doesn’t mean you need to forget who you are

It seems that moms are being pulled in more directions than ever!  Between kids, partners, family, work and other obligations, where does “me time” fit in?

Sometimes it seem that it doesn’t fit in.  Maybe you feel that being a mom means you have to give up your former self.  While your life certainly does change after having a baby and your priorities do too, it is possible to strike a balance between your “mom identity” and you “own identity.”  It takes a little work though.  You will have to carve out some time for yourself.

One thing you can do is make a list of things you used to love to do before having kids.  Write down 5-10 things and then choose one thing off that list and do it this week.  You can even put “big” things on that list like travel and then do a smaller variation this week.  You may not be able to get away to Paris on a whim, but you can find time to go to a French bakery and enjoy a coffee and croissant.

Do what you can to find some time for yourself.  It’s not selfish to take care of yourself.  In fact, taking “me time” can make you a better mother.  You will come back to your every day obligations with new energy and joie de vivre!

Filed under: Family, Parenting, Self-care, Video — admin @ 9:08 pm