(Re)charging Your Relationship!

June 11th, 2010 by admin in Intimacy, Relationship, Romance, Self-care
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battery picWhen talking with clients and even with friends, I often hear, “But I don’t have time for that!”  People talk of feeling stressed or overworked or disconnected from their partner.  I ask, “What about a vacation?” I don’t have time (or money) for that! “An overnight trip?”  I don’t have time for that!  “Date night?”  I don’t have time for that!  So what do you have time for?  Can you carve out 30 minutes with your partner?  No?  Can you commit to 10 minutes?  A really good 10 minutes can do wonders for your stress level and for your relationship.  The most important thing is making sure that the time is intentional.  Put it on your calendar and agree on how you are going to spend the time beforehand.  What can you do in 10 minutes?

  • Talk about your next vacation.
  • Make out.
  • Cuddle.
  • Laugh.
  • Take a bath.
  • Go for a Walk.
  • Enjoy a drink out on the patio.
  • Talk about things you love about each other.

Do something that feels so good that you want to use more than your allotted 10 minutes.  Make it so fulfilling, so juicy, that you will want to schedule more time next time.  Once you see how good 10 minutes feels, next time you will want a half an hour.  Give it to yourself!  And once you get used to carving that time out, then date night and maybe even a vacation aren’t too far behind.  Think of this time as a small way you can recharge your relationship.  You have to charge your cell phone right?  You can’t talk and talk and talk and expect the battery to last.  You need to (re)charge yourself and your relationship too.  And the more charged it is, the better it feels (works) between charges.  So instead of “I don’t have time” or “I can’t afford it” it’s time to say “I will make time” (even if it’s 10 minutes) and “I can’t afford to not take the time.”  10 minutes.  You can find 10 minutes.  Stop reading this post and go smooch on your partner!  Take those 10 minutes, starting….Now!

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