Archive: August, 2010

August 28, 2010

Want more than a weekly update?

Are you looking for more ways you can improve your relationship or sex life?

You can now follow me on Twitter or connect on Facebook.  In addition to tips and updates, will find the links to my weekly Studio 6 appearances.

I look forward to seeing you there!

Filed under: Uncategorized — admin @ 2:28 am

August 20, 2010

You said “I Do” – Now What?

You’ve made it through the stress of planning your wedding and the picturesque day and the romantic honeymoon, and now what?  For some people, life post-wedding can feel like quite a let down.  So much energy and work and excitement goes into planning a wedding and once it’s over, regular life can feel a little pale in comparison.  Now is a good time to look forward and focus on what you want your marriage to be.  (And if you are still in the planning stages, don’t just focus on your wedding, but put at least as much energy into planning what you want your marriage to be).

We hear “newlyweds” or “honeymoon stage” and we think: romance, excitement and lots of great sex!  Which very well may be the case for you…or it might not be.   In the beginning of a relationship our hormones are on overdrive we are giddy and excited and sometimes it can be really hard when those wear off.  The other things to keep in mind is that relationships take work, and sometimes people don’t like that.  Often people want to meet the right person, fall in love and live “happily ever after.”

Here are some common bumps newlyweds can encounter

  • Role expectations and household chores – who does what?
  • Money (hopefully you talked about this before the wedding)
  • Where you spend the holidays
  • Balancing time – independence versus interdependence
  • Sex

As time goes on we get “set in our ways” and develop habits.  It’s great to start healthy behavior now so you don’t have to try to learn it or fit it in  the future.

Here are some ways to set yourself up for success in the beginning of your marriage –

  • Date Night  – get it on the calendar.  If you can’t fit it in once a week look at every other week.  It’s a lot harder to find time for it in the future.
  • Talking about tough things ­- money, how you spend your time, jealousy  – Get in the habit of talking about these things now.  It’s great if you can find time to sit down and talk about things once a week.  These don’t always have to be “hard conversations” you can talk about fun things too.
  • Role expectations – who does what around the house and in your marriage?
  • The future – goals, plans and desires

We talked about this topic on KOIN Studio 6

If you are a newlywed, enjoy that status!  Embrace it.  And also know that being a newlywed doesn’t always mean that life will be breezy and fun.  However, if you set yourself up for success now, those benefits will last you for years to come!

Filed under: Intimacy,Relationship — admin @ 3:42 am

August 11, 2010

Are you waiting for desire????

My July Newsletter is about desire vs. willingness.  If you are waiting for your desire to kick in, you will want to check it out.

This month’s newsletter highlights Five Tips to Spice Up Your Sex Life.  If you are interested in this information and would like to receive it directly in your inbox, then you will want to sign up for my newsletter today!

Filed under: Desire,Intimacy,Newsletter,Relationship — admin @ 4:14 am