Archive: September, 2010

September 29, 2010

Getting What You Want

My September newsletter is about manifesting.

Calling what you want into your life can be a very powerful process.  You can also use the information provided in the newsletter to get what you want in your relationship.  You and your partner can each write lists of what you want in your relationship and then share your lists with one another.  You could also create one list together.  On that list, write what you want to experience together, the adventures you want to have, the life you want to share.  Post your list in a place where you can see it often.  And then watch that very life start to unfold.

Filed under: Newsletter, Relationship — admin @ 4:29 pm

September 16, 2010

Sex and Parenting – Finding time in the bedroom

When you have kids, things change. When you have babies or small children, they need a lot of your time and energy; and sex often goes on the back burner.

Here are some things to keep in mind so your sex life doesn’t fizzle out completely.

  • You need to be flexible.  If you had sex at night before you might have to save sex for naptime or first thing in the morning.
  • Get a noise or music maker and put it in your child’s room so you don’t worry about any noises waking him up.
  • Make sure you have a lock on your door and use it when you are being sexual so you have privacy.
  • Find a good babysitter so you still have time for you and your partner.

We talked about Sex and Parenting on KOIN Studio 6.

Things won’t be as spontaneous and might not be very romantic for a while.  It might feel difficult to focus on sex when your attention is being pulled toward your child(ren), but the longer you go without focusing on sex the harder it is to revive your sexual relationship.  I often compare sex to exercise. The longer you go without exercise, the harder it is to get motivated.  However, if you exercise regularly, you start to put on your workout shoes without even thinking about it.  You’ve developed a habit and it’s part of your routine.  It’s important to keep sex on your radar.

It is OK to claim time for your relationship. It’s important to remember that your partner was there before your children and he will be there after your children grow up and move out of the house. It’s also a great gift to teach your children about privacy so they can claim their own privacy when they get older.  Remember, your children will model their relationships after yours.  What do you want to teach them?

Filed under: Intimacy, Parenting, Sexuality — admin @ 3:47 am

September 9, 2010

5 Small Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

In my August Newsletter you can read about small actions that add up to big changes in your sex life.  (and remember if you subscribe to my newsletter, you get it delivered directly to your inbox)

I also headed over to Koin Studio 6 to talk about this very subject.  You can see the video here.

I love baby steps or small changes because they are easy to implement.  Go ahead and choose one of these 5 tips this week and heat things up with your lover.

Filed under: Intimacy, Newsletter, Sexuality — admin @ 1:52 am