Archive: January, 2011

January 28, 2011

Women’s Sexuality Workshops

I am offering new monthly workshops for women.  The first workshop will focus on desire and is scheduled for Thursday, February 24th from 7-9pm.

If your desire is lacking, you want to learn about ways to increase your desire or you want become comfortable talking about sex and desire – this workshop is for you!  I will be offering information about desire and there will be room for group members to share their experience as well.

Please let me know by February 10th if you plan to attend the workshop because I will be sending out some questions to the members pre-workshop so that I can best tailor the workshop to the participants.  The workshop is limited to 6 participants, so make sure you reserve your space early.  The cost is $25.

March’s workshop topic is Orgasm and I will let you know the date very soon.

Filed under: Desire — admin @ 6:20 pm

What’s your word for 2011?

My January Newsletter went out this week.  If you would like to see it in it’s original format, you can see it here.  The main content is listed below -

I stopped making New Year’s Resolutions a few years ago.  I was tired of pledging to do the same resolutions year after year.  Each year I told myself I would lose weight or eat better or floss and each year I would be gung ho in the beginning of the year and then forget my resolutions as “real life” got busy.  A major shift happened when I realized that if something is really important to me I can do it any time of the year (not just on January 1st).  What a trip to join a gym in April and not have to fight the crowds to get on a machine!

I’m not trying to blast resolutions.  I think there is something special about letting go of the past year and looking forward to a new one.  I’m just not a fan of the word “resolutions”.  There is something about it that feels punishing or temporary (how many years have you recycled the same resolutions over and over again, only to break them each year?)  Instead I like thinking of intentions, wishes or goals.  I think of intentions as an energy, something I can focus on without feeling guilty if I don’t make it happen every single day.  If you slack on your resolutions do you start over or do you just forget them?  With an intention (for example “I’m going to focus on health this year) it’s easy to keep focus on it even if you “mess up” one day.  Intentions can be really helpful for your relationship.  What do you want to focus on as a couple?  What changes would you like to make?  Here is some information on setting relationship intentions.

This year I did something different.  I chose a few words that I want to focus on rather than making very rigid resolutions or intentions. I have a short list of words that are on my radar for the year.  One of the words is “nourishment.”  Instead of having a resolution that I won’t eat or won’t do certain things, I just think of my word.  As I’m making decisions I ask myself, “Is this nourishing?”  I also check in with myself regularly, “What kind of nourishment would feel good?”  Nourishment can take all sorts of forms (self care, exercise, time with friends, a date, a nap etc.).

Now that January is almost over, where are you with your 2011 resolutions, intentions or wishes?   Have you given them up?  Are you making headway?  If you’ve given up on your resolutions or they are starting to feel a little overwhelming, you might just pick a word instead.  What do you really want in your life?  What one thing would make a difference?  What are you yearning for?  What is your word (or words) for 2011?

Filed under: Change, Holidays, Newsletter — admin @ 4:29 am

January 21, 2011

Ritual

What does ritual mean?

Do you think of some long-lost sacred act that has been forgotten? Do you picture religious ceremony or even voodoo or witchcraft?  Or do you have rituals that are a part of your life?  Maybe even your daily life?

I think about ritual a lot this time of year.  I think about letting go of certain energies at the end of a year and focusing on other things as the new year beginnings.  There are other times of the year that ritual may be important for people – holidays, the solstices or equinoxes, anniversaries, birthdays.

Sometimes I think mainstream culture has gotten away from ritual and is letting go of tradition.  What role does ritual play in your life?  Do you have a process for mourning or grieving?  Is there something special you do as the moons or months change?  What role does ritual play in your relationship?  How do you celebrate your anniversary?  Do you have a ritual for greeting your partner at the end of each day?  Is there a sacred sexuality ritual you practice?

Ritual can be a lovely way to make an event more sacred.  It can be a way to connect with others.  It can also give physical expression to an internal process.  It might also be something that is handed down generation after generation.  There can be comfort in that kind of ritual, it brings with it the knowledge that other people have gone before you and done this very thing.

Here are some ways you might use ritual in your life -

  • Create a monthly women’s circle.
  • Write down a list of fears that have been taking up energy and attention, burn that list and watch the smoke rise up into the sky.  Imagine release your fears with that smoke.
  • Create a ritual for your anniversary.  Talk about the highlights of the previous year and create plans for the next year.  You can even recite your vows or enjoy some food or cake that makes you think of your wedding.

Here are some resources for creating your own rituals.  If you are looking for meaning or connecting in a deep way, ritual can bring powerful energy into your life!

Filed under: Ritual — admin @ 10:33 pm