Archive: April, 2011

April 25, 2011

Stop Comparing and Start Living!

“How often do most couples have sex?”  That is the question I get asked most in my practice.  People want to make sure they are measuring up to the “norm.”  Sometimes the “norm” gets skewed.  We see in magazines or in movies that people are having “mind-blowing sex” every time they make love!  How can someone live up to that?  It can feel a little intimidating.  This idea inspired the topic for my April Newsletter – The most wonderful, fabulous, perfectly sexy, hot sex Every Single Time.  Check it out.  I hope after reading it you will be a little gentler with your expectations of yourself.

I see people comparing themselves outside of the bedroom too.  People compare themselves as parents, co-workers and lovers.  People look to celebrities for fashion, hairstyles and body types. Healthy comparison can be inspiring.  If you see someone else doing something it might help you realize you can do the same thing (or more).  It becomes unhealthy when you start to feel awful about yourself.  It becomes harmful when you start to feel you can’t measure up.  Finding a balance between loving yourself and looking to others for inspiration is important.  I talked about this on Studio 6 a couple weeks ago.  You can watch the video here.

You don’t have to be a carbon copy of someone else to be wonderful!  You are you!  We all have our own needs, wants, desires, gifts and talents.  That is what makes you so wonderfully YOU!  So instead of wondering what some celebrity is wearing or how often your neighbor has sex, think about what YOU want or need.  It’s time to stop comparing yourself to others and start living YOUR life!

Filed under: Change,Newsletter,Relationship,Self-care,Sexuality — admin @ 10:17 pm