Happy? Sad? Both can be true.

July 29th, 2011 by admin in Emotions, Self-love, Vulnerability
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This past year has been one of the most wonderful, exciting, abundant times in my life…it has also been very difficult, sad and painful.  What a trip!  Sometimes it feels like it would be easier if life could just be “good” or “bad.” It’s so complicated when multiple emotions come to the surface.  Emotions and feelings are not black and white…they can be muddy, messy and complicated.

You might find that there are things going on in your life that have different emotions attached.

  • You might get your dream job and also be struggling with a break-up.
  • You might be on vacation and get some bad news.
  • You might be planning a wedding and also processing a friend’s or family member’s divorce.

You might also have one experience in your life that has multiple emotions connected to it.

  • You might love someone in your life and be angry about their actions (these are common feelings that come up when a loved one is struggling with addiction).
  • When you move into a new home you might be excited and grateful and also overwhelmed because of unpacking.
  • Getting an advanced degree might fill you with pride and also terrify you about your future prospects.
  • Being pregnant might be something you’ve always hoped for and the thought of giving birth might be really scary.
  • You may be mourning or grieving a loved one’s death and also relieved he or she is no longer suffering.

It can be hard to feel multiple things at once.  During what others perceive as a “happy time” you might feel guilty for having other feelings. Don’t second guess your feelings.  They are there for a reason.

Remember you can be happy AND sad.  You can be filled with love AND frustrated.  You can be stressed out AND grateful.

Both can be true.

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