Talking about sex IS sexual intimacy

September 2nd, 2011 by admin in Intimacy, Sexuality
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You don’t have to have sex in order to feel sexually connected to your partner.  Talking about sex can be a form of sexual intimacy.  It can also help you feel more comfortable with and connected to your partner.  And talking about the kind of sex you want will make it more likely to have that kind of sex!

If you aren’t sure about where to start, here are a couple questions to get you talking.

  • What part of your body would you like me to kiss more?
  • What do you think about talking dirty?  Would you like me to do it?  Are there certain words you find sexy?
  • Are there any movies or sex scenes in movies that you find sexy?
  • What kinds of things set the mood for you sexually? – music, candles, wine, a bath, anything else?
  • What would make you more excited about having sex?
  • What kind of role-play do you find intriguing?
  • What’s your favorite way to be touched?
  • Is there something new you would like to try?

These questions are just to get you started.  You can come up with your own to keep the conversation going.  You can talk about sex as you think of it, or you can set a weekly sex talk date.  Talking about sex once a week for 30 minutes will help you feel more sexually intimate.  Of course, talking won’t take the place of great sex…it is a great form of foreplay though!

If you need a little help talking dirty, read about finding your voice in the bedroom.

Looking for a little nonsexual intimacy in your relationship?  Learn to connect daily with your partner.

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