Giving Yourself Pleasure

February 29th, 2012 by admin in Pleasure, Self-care
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Give Yourself Pleasure

This weekend I went out to dinner with a group of girlfriends.  We laughed, we caught up and we all gushed, “We HAVE to do this more often!”  In fact, we always say that. Between work and partners and kids and crazy schedules…inevitably months go by before we can all get together again.

  • When was the last time you had a massage?
  • or buried your toes in warm sand on a beach?
  • or went on vacation?
  • or indulged in one of your favorites (food, music, activity, etc)?
  • or went dancing?

When was the last time you gave yourself pleasure?

So often I hear from couples where one or both of them don’t think about sex, but when they have it they say, “That was great!  Why don’t we do this more often?”

How many things do you love…yet don’t often do?

What gets in the way?

  • Time?
  • Money?
  • Prioritizing?
  • Fatigue?
  • Guilt?

If you aren’t sure about the role of pleasure in your life, try the following exercise.

Make a list of 20 things that give you pleasure. If you are struggling with the word pleasure, write down 20 things you like to do.  Once you have your list, next to each item, write down the last time you did it.

For example –

  • 1 Watch the sunset – 3 months ago
  • 2 Go out with friends – 1 week ago
  • 3 Get a massage – 1 month ago
  • 4 Go on an overnight with my partner – last summer

Give yourself the gift of pleasure!  If you need a little inspiration, look at your list and start making your pleasure a priority.

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