How Much Work Should You Put into Your Relationship?

April 19th, 2012 by admin in Newsletter, Relationship
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My March Newsletter was about relationships taking work.  Sometimes relationships are hard.  They take energy.  They can be tiring.  In the newsletter I list all sorts of ideas on ways you can put energy and love into your relationship.  Relationships are not self-sustaining, you need to cultivate them in order for them to thrive and grow.  It can be tricky to know how much work is “normal” or “healthy.”  How do you know if you are putting work into a relationship that just isn’t working?

Here are some questions to ask yourself –

  • Am I the only one putting in any effort?
  • How do I feel about myself in this relationship?
  • What would I tell a friend or loved one in this situation?
  • How often am I enjoying myself in this relationship?
  • How loved do I feel in this relationship?
  • How do my family or friends feel about my relationship?

(Please note that I am not referring to situations where abuse is involved.  If that is your situation, please get the professional help and support you need to make sure you are safe.)

Whether or not you decide to stay in a relationship is up to you.  You are the only one who can know what is truly best for you.  Know that relationships do take work, but they also don’t take so much work that you are miserable.  Find a balance (and a relationship) that works for you.

One Response to “How Much Work Should You Put into Your Relationship?”

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