Setting the Mood for Lovemaking

April 5th, 2012 by admin in Intimacy, Relationship, Sexuality
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What do you do to set the mood before sex? Do you look at your partner and ask if she wants to go upstairs?  Do you brush your teeth?  Trim your nails?  Maybe shave or shower?

I’ve written about seduction before and what can lead up to “the big event.”  I’m also wondering what you do to get your space (or yourself) ready.

I’m hearing from more and more women who have a hard time separating sexy time from the other aspects of their lives.  I’m told they are haunted by piles of laundry, grocery lists, squabbling children or barking dogs.  They’ve shared they need something that makes sexual connection seem different from the rest of their lives.  They want something special.

Here are some easy ways to set the mood for lovemaking.

  • Pay attention to lighting –  light some candles, dim the lights, do something different than your everyday norm
  • Pick out some music – Do you want something soothing? classical? sexy? loud?  Find music that will compliment your sexual encounter.
  • Get rid of distractions – Is the bedroom messy?  If so, will your partner be able to relax?  Is dinner in the oven?  Maybe you have to pick up your kids in 20 minutes.  Make sure you have time to enjoy yourself and there aren’t other things vying for your (or your partner’s) attention.
  • Make sure the room is comfortable – If the room is freezing, will you be comfortable getting naked?  Do you have the privacy you need in order to enjoy yourself?
  • Pay attention to personal hygiene – Stinky breath (or body odor), prickly facial hair and sharp fingernails (that can scratch or poke delicate body parts) can get in the way of sexual connection.

You don’t have to make a big production out of it, although you absolutely can.  There is always room for romance, seduction or sensuality.  Sometimes you don’t have time (or energy) to “go all out.”  The things I listed above only take a couple moments and can help make your sexual experience more enjoyable.  Try setting the mood the next time you initiate sex.

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