Archive: July, 2012

July 31, 2012

Do Long Distance Relationships Work?

long distance relationshipDo long distance relationships work?

Ask 10 people and you will get 10 different responses.

One thing most people can agree on is that long distance relationships are hard.  All relationships take work. All relationships can be hard at times.

Here are some of the potential difficulties in a long distance relationship.

  • Feeling lonely
  • If you have a “bad” conversation it can feel like you have a “bad” relationship
  • Missing out on romance
  • Lack of physical intimacy
  • Potential for more jealousy (especially if you haven’t met your partner’s friends or have a hard time getting a hold of him/her)
  • Not feeling like a priority

And here are some of the perks of a long distance relationship

  • Dates can feel like mini vacations
  • Lots of passion when you do reconnect
  • Some long distance couples communicate often and get used to sharing information intimately
  • If your partner is romantic you may get letters or gifts in the mail
  • Technology makes it easier than ever to connect over the miles

Do long distance relationships work? This is not a question I can answer with a yes or no – it depends.  Here is a segment we did on KOIN Studio 6 about this very topic.

Even if your long distance relationship lasts, it could be a difficult transition when you finally live in the same place. But hey, all of the obstacles we face inform who we become.  If you and your partner can overcome distance than you may find you can overcome most other obstacles too!

Filed under: Communication, Relationship, Video — admin @ 2:05 pm

July 25, 2012

The Best First Date Locations

Do you remember your first date with your partner?  Where is was.  What you did (or ate).  How you felt.  Has your first date become a special part of the story of how the two of you got together?

Are you single and in the dating scene?  Do you have a special place you like to take new people?  Or do you dread the question “Where should we go?” when you are making plans with a potential mate?

I was interviewed by KGW about a poll that listed the Top 10 Portland First Date DestinationsYou can watch the video here.  If dinner and a movie feels a little stale, you can always find fun, new things to do (whether it’s your first or your 100th date)!

I would love to hear about your favorite first date locations. Head on over to my facebook page and share your stories or tips!

Filed under: Dating, Relationship, Video — admin @ 10:18 am

July 21, 2012

Firsts and Lasts

Do you remember your first kiss? What about the first time you fell in love?  The first time you traveled to an exciting location?  The first time you held your newborn baby? Your first sunset?  The first time you tasted a certain food?

Do you remember the last thing someone special said to you? What about celebrating your last day at a job that didn’t serve you?  Your last day of high school?  Your last night in a certain house or apartment?  The last day of vacation?

Firsts and lasts can carry a significant weight in our minds. They can also feel irreplaceable (and in many ways they are).  After time it can feel like there are no more “firsts” you can have with a partner.  If that’s the case, can you recreate some of your favorites?

  • What it would be like if you kissed your partner as if it was the first time your lips met?
  • What if you could see the town you lived in with the wonder that visitors feel?
  • How would it feel to look at your child (who may be driving you crazy) with the love you felt the first moment you met him/her?
  • How can you experience a certain taste, scent,  or sensation as if for the first time?

How would your life be different if you imagined that some moments were your last?

  • Would you say, “I love you” more if you thought it was your last chance?
  • Would you kiss or hug a little longer?
  • Would you say or do something differently?
  • How might you appreciate your body if you knew you were getting sick or injured?

Are there moments of your life that are passing you by?  Are there things you are taking for granted?  What firsts or lasts might you appreciate today?

Filed under: Gratitude, Relationship — admin @ 9:13 pm

July 4, 2012

5 Ways to Light Some Fireworks in the Bedroom!

fireworks

Setting off some fireworks this 4th of July?  Leave the lights in the sky to the professionals and instead focus on creating fireworks in your relationship.

Here are a few ways to light that spark with your partner.

  • Go Back to Junior High

Remember what a big deal kissing used to be?  Or holding hands?  As relationships progress we often forget to go back to the basics, instead opting for intercourse as the “end all be all” of sex.  Have fun by making out, going to second base or doing other things you used to do together before you went “all the way.”

  • Create Intimacy Outside of the Bedroom

Trying connecting in intimate ways that don’t involve sex.  Talk about your goals, hopes or fears.  Cuddle up on the couch.  Take a walk or go on a date.  Share a really juicy kiss (for not reason at all).  Focus on your connection outside of the bedroom and notice how things heat up in the bedroom.

  • Seduce Your Partner

After a while we can fall into a routine.  Not only do people have sex the same ways, they also initiate in the same old ways.  Set up a seduction scenario for your partner and watch how excited he or she gets!

  • Show Your Partner What Feels Good

Knowing what you want in the bedroom is sexy.  Show your partner what feels good and how you like to be touched.  Giving in the bedroom is often appreciated, but knowing their partner is enjoying sex turns on many people.

  • Play with Power

Notice what it’s like to be dominant or submissive.  Play with being “in charge” or letting your partner take the lead.  Plenty of people who are “in control” outside of the bedroom like how feels to be tied up in bed.

Have a Safe, Happy (and SEXY) 4th of July!

Looking for more ways to heat things up in the bedroom?  Check out the other posts.

5 Small Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Set the Mood for Lovemaking

Have Vacation Sex Without Leaving Your Home

Shake Up Your Sexual Routine

Filed under: Holidays, Relationship, Seduction, Sexuality — admin @ 4:38 pm