Be Gentle With Yourself This Holiday Season

December 9th, 2012 by admin in Emotions, Grief, Holidays, Self-care, Self-love
Bookmark and Share

DSC01093

I was intending to write a post on the 4th about creating holiday traditions.  However, that day I found out that my dad’s battle with cancer may be coming to an end.  I can’t really think about starting new traditions as I grieve.  I can’t think about ways to celebrate this wonderful season, while I think about the last moments I may have with my dad.

Most of my family lives in the Midwest so I was on speaker phone as they all gathered in my dad’s hospital room to talk about next steps and possibilities.  As I hung up the phone, my mind started reeling with all of the things I “need to do” before I fly home to be with my family.  For a few minutes I considered just canceling Christmas this year.  For a few minutes I thought about trying to do things as I usually do (the parties and baking and presents and celebrating and traditions).  I was already feeling a bit overwhelmed trying to balance my practice, my 4 month old and the holidays and now my mind was racing with things to do for my dad and my family…things to say…memories…feelings…

The holidays can be so overwhelming! They can be full of “shoulds” and obligations and guilt and stress. The holidays can also be heartbreaking if you are alone or grieving.  The holidays can be bittersweet if they remind you of a lost love or loved one.  The holidays can be hard!  We don’t need to make them harder than they already are.  If you are struggling this holiday season, please give yourself a break.  You don’t have to do it all (and you probably couldn’t even if you tried).  Please be gentle with yourself.  Give yourself a break. Turn down the volume on your inner critic and turn up the volume on your inner cheerleader.

It’s OK if you only do the holidays half way. 

It’s OK if you skip the holidays all together. 

It’s OK if you have a full blown rockin’ holiday season.

What’s most important is that you take care of yourself and celebrate (or not) in the way that feels best for you.  Be gentle with yourself this holiday season…that is one gift of love that you can shower on yourself.

One Response to “Be Gentle With Yourself This Holiday Season”

  1. Julie Jeske, M.S. Says:

    […] Be gentle with yourself this holiday […]