Archive: May, 2013

May 30, 2013

Stay in the Present


It’s so easy to wonder what will happen a year from now, a month from now, even a day from now!

Especially if you are struggling.

Will it always hurt this much?

Will I ever recover?

Will I love again?

What will happen with work? My relationship? My living situation?

Sometimes the idea of a crystal ball that shows us our future, is really appealing.

Not knowing can be hard.

The unknown can be uncomfortable.

And sometimes it is where we need to be.

Will I have an orgasm?

Will I get an erection?

Will we get married?

Will we stayed married?

Our brains can spin questions and tales and make guesses, but they are just guesses.  The only thing you can really do is stay in the present.

Or worry and stress and rail and resist…but I would recommend trying to say in the present.

Here are a few things to try if you are struggling to stay in the present.

  • Practice Sensuality – What do you feel, hear, taste, touch, smell?
  • Ask yourself what you want, right NOW.
  • Try adding the words “today” or “right now” to your sentences. “I don’t know what I want, today.” or “I am angry, right now.” or “Being a parent is hard, today.”  Adding “today” or “right now” reminds us that this too may change.
Filed under: Emotions,Self-care,Support,Vulnerability — admin @ 9:06 pm

May 21, 2013

Get Out of your HEAD and Into your BODY

Get out of your head

I recently hosted a call focusing on getting out of your head and into your body.

You can listen to the recording HERE.

There are so many things that can keep us from being present sexually.  I went over a long list on the call.  I also shared some tangible things you can do to be more present in the bedroom.  When you are more present you will be able to plug into your pleasure and connect with your partner.

Two of the larger things I talked about on the call are – Cultivating Pleasure in and out of the Bedroom and Focusing on Sensuality.

Here are some resources for cultivating pleasure –

Giving Yourself Pleasure

Give Yourself Permission for Pleasure

The Pleasure Project

Here are some resources to help you connect with your body –

Be Your Own Best Lover

Treat Your Body Well

Be in Your Body

And lastly, here is a post to help you get sex on your radar.

Sensuality and Pleasure are just a few of the tools we focus on in “You Don’t Have to be a Sexy Tiger: Discover YOUR Sexual Self!

Filed under: Pleasure,Sensuality,Sexuality,Women,Workshop — admin @ 2:42 pm

May 15, 2013

Breaking up in the age of Social Media

Breaking up is hard to do!  And in the age of social media, it can be even more complicated (and public!).  When you relationship status goes from “in a relationship” to “it’s complicated” or “single” you are opening yourself up to a lot of questions or feedback.  You also have to decide if you still want to be friends (facebook friends, that is).

I was recently interviewed by KGW for a story about some apps geared toward break ups and social media.  You can watch the segment here.

Whether you decide to stay friends or erase your ex from your life, breaking up can be really hard.  Here are some resources for mending your heart and getting on with your life.

Life after a break up.

Recovering from a break up.

My May newsletter is about dating in the digital age.  You can view it here.  What to get future newsletters directly in your inbox?  Subscribe here.

Filed under: Communication,Dating,Newsletter,Self-care — admin @ 10:04 am

May 14, 2013

Get out of your head and into your body! – Free Phone call

  • Does your mind wander during sex?
  • Are you thinking about laundry, worrying about work or drafting an important email?
  • Do you worry about your orgasm, how your body looks or pleasing your partner?
  • Are you distracted, overwhelmed and just find that your brain is BUSY?

Many women are magnificent multi-taskers, which is great for life in general, but not so great when it comes to sex.

Being “stuck in my head” and “disconnected from my body” is something I hear women talk about often.  Wouldn’t it be great if you could be present and focus on your pleasure?  Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could show up and enjoy sex?

I’m offering a free call to address this topic on Sunday, May 19th at 2pm Pacific. I had such a good time talking about sex at Sex in the Dark last week.  I left the event and really wanted to connect with more people. This call is a great opportunity to take charge of your pleasure and learn more about letting yourself receive and enjoy touch.

Here are the details –

  • Sunday, May 19th – 2pm Pacific Time
  • Conference dial-in number: (805) 399-1000
    Participant access code: 977082

I hope you will join me!

Filed under: Body-Image,Pleasure,Sexuality,Women — admin @ 2:56 pm

May 3, 2013

Last LIVE Sexy Tiger Class in 2013

My next round of You Don’t Have to be a Sexy Tiger: Discover YOUR Sexual Self!, starts the week of June 2nd.

This is the last time I will be offering the live version of the class this year.

Currently participants receive a video each Monday plus emails on Wednesday and Friday.  I then host a conference call on Sunday.  The weekly call is a great opportunity to ask questions,  get personal feedback or share with other participants.  I love being able to connect with participants each week.  I love learning more about your discoveries, what you are learning and what is working.  I also have so many ideas for other classes and blog posts and books. I need to spend a little more time cultivating my other ideas.

After this summer class, you can still take my course and learn more about your sexuality, however I will be offering a podcast in place of the weekly phone.  You will get all of the great information, you will still discover your sexual self, you just won’t get direct access to personal feedback.  You Don’t Have to be a Sexy Tiger: Discover YOUR Sexual Self! will be delivered directly to your inbox and you can take the class at your own pace.

If you’ve been thinking about taking this class and want direct access to support, now is the time.  The next class starts in one month.  I’m so excited about this process.  I learn so much each time I connect with women and share this class.  There is something wonderful that happens when women share and connect and are heard and seen. While this class is online and you can do it at your own pace and on your own without talking to anyone…there is the possibility of sharing on the calls, asking questions and also learning about other women’s experiences.  It can be so powerful!

I’m so looking forward to this class!

Filed under: Sexual Being,Sexuality,Sexy Tiger,Women — admin @ 8:23 pm