Are you Alone or Lonely?

June 20th, 2013 by admin in Relationship, Self-care, Self-love, Support
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My daughter loves her alone time.  She enjoys interacting with the people and animals in her life and she hits her saturation point, rubs her little eyes and I take her up to her crib for a nap.  When she gets in her crib she rarely goes right to sleep, she will play and talk and sing and relish her time alone.

It’s a joy to watch her being so comfortable in her own skin.

In today’s world, we are rarely alone.  Even when we are physically alone there are smart phones, tablets, computers and TVs ready to distract us and keep us company.  When was the last time you were alone?

If you are partnered, have children, or live with others; it might be hard to remember a time you were by yourself.

What happens when you are alone? How does it feel?  Do you avoid it or embrace it?  What’s so bad about being alone?  Is it scary?  Are you faced with your thoughts or your feelings or your fears?

Here are some things I like to do when I’m alone –

  • Take a bath
  • Read
  • Write in my journal
  • Sit in nature
  • Go for a walk
  • Listen to music
  • Do Nothing…this can be hard…especially if you are struggling in you life.  Just sitting with yourself and your thoughts can feel really uncomfortable.

Are you always lonely when you are alone? The two can go hand in hand…but do they have to?  Some people feel quiet content when they have time to themselves.

I have also sat across from many clients who have shared they are very lonely even though they are partnered.  It is so hard to feel lonely in your relationship.  Sure you might feel lonely when you are alone…but when you are with someone, your special person and still alone, that is incredibly painful.

If you are feeling lonely, it’s OK to ask for support.  Reach out to friends or family.  Find an activity that you enjoy.  Surround yourself with loving people

You can be alone and be content.  You can be alone and be entertained.  You can also be in the presence of others and still feel lonely.

Knowing the difference between being lonely and being alone will help you find comfort and support.

One Response to “Are you Alone or Lonely?”

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