The Truth About Sex

July 16th, 2013 by admin in Intimacy, Live Your Best Life, Sexuality
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Recently someone called me a “Truth-Seeker.”  Wowee!  That struck my heart as a huge compliment.  I’ve been seeking and honoring truth a lot lately.  It is one of my core values.  I’ve also been thinking about my business and the values I help people cultivate.

Passion

Pleasure

Adventure

Intimacy

Vulnerability

Living Lusciously

Really Great Sex

All of the above is lovely.  It’s also really hard to maintain.  Great sex is WONDERFUL, but can you have it every single time you come together with your lover? I want you to unlock your potential for pleasure and really discover what you like…but will you feel pleasure every single day of your life?  I truly do live lusciously, does that mean I always love everything about my life?

Here are some truths about sex (and life).

  • Sometimes it lacks passion – or is even “blah.”
  • It takes work to make it better (I know sex is supposed to be “natural” but like anything if you want to make it more interesting or exciting you are going to have to try new things, you might even have to read a book or take a class or talk to an expert).
  • Things that used to “work” for you might not anymore. Our bodies change, we change…just because you used to love something doesn’t mean you always will.
  • When you are present and invested it really is better!
  • Just doing it for someone else will not serve you. Closing your eyes and willing it to be over isn’t good for your soul or your heart or your relationship (see above, when you show up you are rewarded).
  • The more you know about what you want and what you like – the better it will be.
  • Intimacy, love and vulnerability can take it to a whole different level. Sure, it can be fun, exciting, sexy or playful with a stranger – but there is a depth that can be enjoyed with someone you love and respect.
  • Occasionally your body might not cooperate. You might have trouble with arousal or orgasm or a certain position.
  • Sex (like life) is deeply personal.
  • You will feel better about what you are doing if you stop looking to other people for approval. If you feel good about it (and aren’t hurting anyone), you are doing it right.  Stop trying to measure yourself against someone else’s yardstick.
  • It ebbs and flows – sometimes it’s great, sometimes it’s tender, sometimes it’s passionate, sometimes it happens a lot and sometimes it’s less frequent.  Trust that if it’s not so great now, you can make it better.

Do I want you to have great sex EVERY single time?  Sure!  Do I wish you could feel sexy EVERY second of the day? Of course!  I am also a truth-seeker and I think it’s important to identify our own personal truths.

What are your sexual truths?

What are you hiding or avoiding seeing?

What do you celebrate and hold dear?

Get clear about your own sexual truths and notice how that positively affects your experience (and life)!

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