Archive: October, 2013

October 25, 2013

Receiving Sexual Gifts

Do you have a hard time receiving?

  • What happens when someone does something nice for you?
  • How do you react when someone gives you a compliment?
  • What is your response when your lover offers to please you?

When it comes to receiving in the bedroom, are you opening and willing?

  • Are you worried that receiving makes you greedy?
  • Do you feel “exposed” or “on display” if you allow your partner to give to you fully?
  • Do you get tripped up asking for what you want or knowing what will give you pleasure?

When you open up to receiving, you give your sexual partner a gift!  You allow your lover to give you the gift of pleasure.  You know how good it feels to give, right?  So why would you want to deny your partner that great feeling?  Let your partner give to you sexually!  And why stop there, give yourself some sexual gifts too!

If you still struggle with the idea of receiving (or feel shame or discomfort about sexual pleasure), let yourself receive in a more comfortable way – sign up for Woman is a River: Transforming Your Sexual Mythology.  Give yourself this gift and learn more about the joy of receiving!

Filed under: Receiving, Sexuality, Woman is a River — admin @ 8:03 pm

October 21, 2013

Risking Everything for Love

Risk Everything for love

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”
Erica Jong

Filed under: Love, Relationship — admin @ 8:30 am

October 18, 2013

Sacred Birth

sacred birth

What have you birthed (or witness being birthed) into the world?  What have you created?  What do you want to create?  In my work I get to witness amazing things coming forth all the time.  I get to see people dreaming and creating and birthing all the time!  I also get to see people become pregnant and becoming parents.  As a parent myself, it’s a path I treasure.

Almost 6 years ago, I also got to witness one of my dear friends give birth to her son.  This was years before I wanted to be a mother.  This was a couple years before I even started my practice.  And it is an experience I will never forget!  It was an honor to be part of the group of women in the room (with her husband and her mother); supporting, loving and witnessing her.  I will remember the laughter before she started pushing, my friend, Lori, is hilarious!  I will remember us counting (or shouting) to 10 as she breathed and pushed (I don’t think the doctors/nurses loved having so many women in the room, but it was incredible!).  I will remember seeing her son as he entered the world.  I will remember the glances all of us women shared with each other, we knew we were witnessing beauty and magic.  I was forever changed by being invited into that intimate and sacred moment.

A little over a year ago, I experienced my daughter’s birth.  It didn’t go as planned, and it was also perfect and magic and sacred.  She was breech (or lotus as my yoga instructor liked to call it…she said lotus babies like to stay close to their mama’s hearts, I LOVE that!).  I tried everything to get her to turn.  I saw an acupuncturist, a chiropractor and worked with my hypnobirthing teacher.  I tried moxibustion at home, I went to my yoga class and I suspended myself upside down on an ironing board on an angle multiple times a day.  I even went in for an external cephalic version – which left my belly bruised and my baby securely in her lotus position.  In the end I was not able to have the birth I dreamed of and had a cesarean section.  And you know what, it was OK.  It was still special. I still remember the second I heard her cry.  I remember seeing her for the first time.  And I was able to have skin to skin contact right away.  My dear daughter, cuddled up on my chest as they closed my incision and she stopped crying when she heard my voice.  Then they bundled her up like a little burrito and wheeled us back to our room and she started to nurse immediately.

I love hearing women’s birth stories – the ecstasy, the disappointment, the exhaustion, the love.  All of it!  I’m grateful for the birth of babies and the birth of ideas and birth of self-love that I get to witness on a regular basis.

We will be talking about birth (of babies and of self-love and empowered sexuality) in Woman in a River: Transforming Your Sexual MythologyAre you ready to share your stories, hear from other women or do some healing? I hope you will join us.

Filed under: Birth, Woman is a River — admin @ 2:47 pm

October 15, 2013

Take yourself on a date!

Date Night is an important part of a romantic relationship.  Going on solo dates is also great whether you are single or partnered!

Solo Date

How can you treat yourself?

A solo date doesn’t have to look the same as your partner dates (though it could if that feels good).  If you are picturing yourself sitting alone at a candle lit table meant for two, while all of the other happy couples stare at you with pity, know that you can create a date that feeds you rather than shames you.

A solo can be fun, creative, pampering, sensual, relaxing and more.

Here are some things you can do on your own –

  • Take a class - This could be a one time class or something that meets weekly.  Learn a foreign language, study a cuisine, make some art.  Do something that intrigues you.
  • Go to lunch or coffee -A solo date doesn’t have to be along or extravagant.  Lunch or a coffee treat can give you just enough of a “pause” in your day to feel centered and recharged.
  • Do some shopping – Grocery shopping doesn’t count!  Go to your favorite store or explore someplace new.  You don’t even have to buy something.  Let yourself take as much time as you like.  Window shop.  Explore.  Have fun!
  • Get creative - Make something. Learn something. Start a project. Dream.  I love what Julia Cameron has to stay about taking a weekly artist date!
  • Pamper yourself – Get a massage or a pedicure. Take a nap.  Practice self-care or self-love.
  • Enjoy the seasons - Go to a cider mill, take a sleigh ride, play in the leaves, bask in the sunshine.  Do something festive.  Or grab your camera and head out to explore the season and your senses.  Focusing on your senses keeps you in the present.
  • Relax – Listen to music, go to a movie, read a book, slow down.
  • Indulge – Spend a night at a hotel (alone), take a trip or a weekend get-away, do something you love but have a hard time doing with others rushing you.  Make it yours.

Treat yourself well.  Treat yourself to a date!

Filed under: Dating, Romance, Self-care, Self-love — admin @ 9:58 am

October 9, 2013

When talking about sex becomes a chore…

communication

If you and your partner are struggling sexually, chances are talking about sex is also a struggle.

You may find that you have the same fights about sex.  You might feel as though you go round and round in circles and nothing changes.  Or perhaps you avoid the topic (and uncomfortable feelings) all together.

When sex is difficult, talking about it becomes nearly impossible.

And when we don’t talk about something, it’s hard for it to shift.  When we don’t talk about improving sex, it’s rare for it to improve on it’s own.  When couples only talk about sex to complain about unmet needs or share how disappointed they are, it can feel impossible to make sex (or talking about sex) fun.  Sex (and talking about it) can start to feel “charged” or “heavy” or “tenuous.”

If you want to shift sex, also look at shifting how you talk about sex.

It can feel risky or vulnerable (you know vulnerability can be a good thing, right?) to change the conversation.  It can also bring wonderful things into your sex life.  Instead of the same old complaints or disappointments, what about sharing some things that are working?  What about sharing things that excite you?  What about sharing what turns you on (especially the ways your partner turns you on)?  Make some time to communicate about sex in a positive way. Have a romantic date and talk about sex in a playful or flirty manner.  If you like structure, pencil in some time to talk about what makes sex fun.  Train yourself to have a different kind of conversation about sex.  As you change the way you talk about sex, you can change the way you  have sex. As you find a new way to communicate, you can remove some of the tension that is built up around sex and come together in a more connected way!

If you would like some help with conversations starters, check out this post  – Talking about sex IS sexual intimacy.

Filed under: Communication, Pleasure, Relationship, Sexuality — admin @ 9:35 am

October 3, 2013

Transform Your Sexual Mythology

  • Are you ready to heal your 2nd chakra?
  • Do you want to connect to (or discover) your sexual essence?
  • Looking for more pleasure or passion or joy?

Woman is a River – Transform Your Sexual Mythology is what you are yearning for!

I am partnering with one of my favorite people to create this juicy new offering!  Pixie Campbell, has been a dear friend for over a decade and she is an incredibly gifted and intuitive teacher.  I’ve been lucky enough to participate in other courses she has facilitated and I know how transformative they are!

We sat down and talked about our hopes (and giddy excitement) for this course.  You can listen to our podcast below.

This course is going to be overflowing with goodness! The class starts November 25th.  What an amazing way to close out 2013!

Are you ready to transform your sexual mythology? I hope so!

Filed under: Groups, Intimacy, Pleasure, Self-love, Sexual Being, Sexuality, Women — admin @ 12:24 pm