Archive: February, 2014

February 27, 2014

An Invitation to Communicate

Julie Jeske Healthy U

I am so honored to have been invited to speak as part of Portland State University’s Healthy U Wellness Challenge. I was asked to talk about the importance of communication and sex. Yahoo!  I LOVE that sex and communication were a part of a health challenge!

They recorded my talk and it is available if you would like to learn more about the importance of sexual communication and some tips on how to talk about sex.

You can view “An Invitation to Communicate” Here.

For more help talking about sex, check out “Talking About Sex is Sexual Intimacy.”

Filed under: Communication, Sexuality, Video, health — admin @ 9:11 am

February 23, 2014

Shower Yourself With Love

Shower-Yourself-with-Love

Are you ready? Ready for –

An entire month dedicated to YOU!

An entire month of LOVE!

An entire month where you get to be a priority!

Shower Yourself With Love - An online class for women.

April showers bring May flowers. What will a month of love bring?

4 weeks

March 31 – April 27th

We throw bridal showers to honor future brides and baby showers to honor future moms…what about showering YOURSELF with love?
If I had one wish, it would be that everyone feels love…a love that originates from inside…a knowing that you are lovable and enough and worthy. Yes, world peace or ending hunger or saving the planet…all of those things pull at me as well. But the one thing I see in my office over and over, the one thing I see that causes pain and uncertainty and judgement and anger and feelings of worthlessness is a lack of self love. Self love. It’s the foundation for all other love. It’s the foundation for trust and confidence and connection. It’s the foundation for life.

Even if you do fundamentally feel loveable and love yourself…how often do you treat yourself with love? What about showering yourself with love? This is an opportunity to spend an entire month learning about what helps you feel loveable and doing things to help you feel loved.

4 Weeks of Love!

4 Weeks of Self-Love!

You will Receive -

An email every Monday, Wednesday and Friday from March 31st – May 3rd.

Exercises, journal prompts and activities.

A video each week.

Spreecasts where you can ask questions or check in with other participants.

We will cover

Self love – what is it, what does it feel like, where does it come from?

What gets in the way of love?

Self-esteem (how is that different than self-love?)

Telling your inner critic to pipe down!

Self-care VS. Self-love – How are they different? How are they connected?

Being your own best lover

Loving your body and your sexual self

Ways to feel love EVERY day

Cultivating Pleasure, Joy, Gratitude and Intimacy – see how these things turn up the volume on love

and MORE…

Are you ready?  Ready to soak it all in?  Ready to infuse yourself with love?  Ready to shower yourself with love?

Maybe you feel fundamentally lovable – but you are tired and disconnected or overwhelmed…this class will fill you up, replenish you and remind you who you are.

This isn’t just a little bit of self-love – it’s a full on shower. I am ready for it!  Ready for a month of full-volume, light shining, graciously receiving, brimming to the top with goodness self-lovin’!

Will you let me help you love yourself?

It’s only $39. Trust me, love, you are worth it!

Registration is currently closed. Look for the PDF to be released in early May.

Filed under: Body-Image, Class, Love, Pleasure, Receiving, Self-care, Self-love, Support, Women — admin @ 2:17 pm

February 14, 2014

Valentine’s Day Selfie

V-day heart

How will you honor yourself today?

If you are single you may try to skip the day all together, or perhaps you have sometime planned to treat yourself. If you are partnered will you be loving yourself today?

Are you focused on your partner? Your relationship? Maybe today is a reason to celebrate your kiddos with red hearts and sweet treats. What about you?

Celebrating yourself on Valentine’s Day sounds like a good idea, right? How often do you do it? Probably only when you are single…and even then it may not be a true honoring, but more of a “Screw this, I don’t need a man. I will treat myself!” kind of Valentine’s Day.

Can you see that whether you are in a relationship or not, whether you have 0 lovers or 100, it all starts with you. All of your love starts with you. All of your desiring and wishes and sexuality and compassion…it all starts with you. So…

How will you honor yourself today?

And the next day…and the next day…and the next day…

Filed under: Holidays, Intimacy, Love — admin @ 3:23 pm

February 12, 2014

Valentine’s Day Gifts That Keep on Giving!

giving heart

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, a holiday that people LOVE or HATE. I hear from so many people who feel disappointed by the gifts they receive and others who feel stressed about trying to find the “right” gift.

Here are a few things you can buy (or give) that will last long after February 14th.

  • Share your favorite memories.
  • Buy a book you can read together (or give a gift card to a bookstore). Find a book about sexuality or relationships or even some erotica you can read together.
  • Go to She Bop together (if you aren’t in Portland, find another female-friendly adult store).
  • You can find toys, lotions, potions, movies or books to spice up your sex life and spark some connecting conversations.
  • Plan an occasion/event. Make a date or a little getaway you will both remember and talk about for Valentine’s Days to come.
  • Seduce your parter – Plan a sexy encounter, one that will titillate and tantalize your partner. What turns him or her on?
  • Give the gift of sexual education or self-love. (this is a great gift for you to give yourself as well!)

I offer an E-course for couples.

“Shower Your Partner With Love”

And e-courses for women too.

“You Don’t Have to be a Sexy Tiger: Discover YOUR Sexual Self!”

Releasing Shame – Embracing Pleasure”

“Shower Yourself with Love”

“The Pleasure Project”

If a class doesn’t tickle your fancy, you could also get a “how-to” video or book for more information about your sexuality or pleasing your partner.



Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be stressful or disappointing. Keep your partner in mind and find a way to make him or her feel special.

Filed under: Holidays, Intimacy, Love, Pleasure, Romance — admin @ 2:40 pm

No More Sexy Tiger!

(Unless you want to be a sexy tiger, of course!)

Sexy Tiger Class

Do you know my very favorite things to talk about? The work that makes me most excited and lights me up? I LOVE helping women discover who they are sexually. I LOVE witnessing who they truly are (not who someone else told them they should be). I LOVE creating connections, leading excavation and hearing their truths. It’s exhilarating. And humbling. And beautiful. And moving. And wonderful!

After a year of in-person groups and online classes, I’m thrilled (is there a bigger word than thrilled? Because I am more than thrilled!) to share a new self-study course so you can discover your sexuality at your own pace and at home.

“You Don’t Have to be a Sexy Tiger: Discover YOUR Sexual Self!” Self-Study Course

You get all of the good stuff from my “You Don’t Have to be a Sexy Tiger: Discover YOUR Sexual Self!” e-course, packed into a 73-page PDF.

  • 10 Weeks of Questions, Activities and Exercises
  • 10 Weeks of Information and Lessons
  • 11 Videos
  • 10 Conference Calls

All delivered to your inbox and designed to help you get to the root of your sexuality, your desires, your SELF!

Course Topics –

  • What is a Sexual Being? What does it mean to be sexual?
  • Know Your Body – Anatomy and Body Image
  • Sensuality – Romance – Love
  • Discover What you like – Pleasure – Orgasm
  • Desire – Passion – Creativity
  • Shame
  • Vulnerability – Intimacy – Asking for what you want
  • What does sexy look like? – Power – Flirting – Seduction
  • How does sexuality fit in with the rest of your life? – Getting Sex on your Radar
  • Putting it all together – You know who you are, what if you don’t like it?

I am so excited about this class and the way it is awakening women’s sexual desire and expression.

If you are ready to have a better understanding of your sexuality, this class is for you!

Discover your sexual truth for $99!

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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~Anais Nin

Are you ready to blossom into your authentic sexual self?


February 5, 2014

Living isn’t for the faint of heart

This beautiful traveling altar was sent to me by a wonderful supporter and someone who recognizes when I am "in it."

This beautiful traveling altar was sent to me by a wonderful supporter and someone who recognizes when I am "in it."

So many big things are happening. So many of us are IN IT! And sometimes it is hard.

Major changes, challenges, growth opportunities and struggles.

We are starting businesses, ending relationships, raising children, speaking out truths, saying goodbye to people we love, going back to school, struggling to pay our bills, giving up our dreams, grieving, choosing to have a baby, struggling to get pregnant, moving to places where we don’t know a soul, leaving places and people we love, hearing bad news, receiving life altering diagnoses or prognoses and wondering, what is the point of it all?

We are taking risks and sometimes falling and standing again and trying.

We are flourishing.

We are saying yes to love, laughing with our heads thrown back and our mouths wide open, receiving touch and warmth and connection, dancing with our arms out and our hips swaying, making love and calling out our pleasure, loving our bodies and shaking off shame.

And sometimes we aren’t.

Sometimes our heart is breaking. Sometimes we are crying on the bathroom floor. Or sometimes we wish we could be crumpled on the bathroom floor, but there are mouths to feed or floors to wash or other tears that need to be dried. Sometimes we are stuck in shame, unable to be seen or see ourselves, wishing we could just disappear…sometimes forever.

Oh man, this stuff is hard.

Oh man, this life can be hard…and wonderful…and glorious…and hard.

Sometimes the joy is so big we feel guilty. Sometimes we worry that it will all be taken away…there is too much good and when other people are hurting it feels uncomfortable to have too much good. Sometimes we feel like we need to pay for the good or earn the good or even things out a bit. We worry we are undeserving…we don’t enjoy this moment because we think about how awful it will feel when it’s gone.

Living isn’t for the faint of heart.

But what are our choices?

We live and feel it all…the up the down…the high the low…the lovely the miserable…the ecstasy and the brutally hard –- or we shut down, we numb out, we self-medicate, we build walls, we close up, we push away, we turn inside out, we give up.

When you close to pain, you close to joy. When you numb the hurt you numb the bliss. When you avoid heartache, you avoid heart-opening.

It’s a bitter truth, eh?

You have a choice. Neither is easy. Life isn’t easy. And truly living isn’t for the faint of heart.


February 4, 2014

Shower Yourself With Love This Spring

Shower-Yourself-with-Love

An online class for women.

April showers bring May flowers. What will a month of love bring?

4 weeks

starts March 31st

We throw bridal showers to honor future brides and baby showers to honor future moms…what about showering YOURSELF with love?

If I had one wish, it would be that everyone feels love…a love that originates from inside…a knowing that you are lovable and enough and worthy. Yes, world peace or ending hunger or saving the planet…all of those things pull at me as well. But the one thing I see in my office over and over, the one thing I see that causes pain and uncertainty and judgement and anger and feelings of worthlessness is a lack of self love. Self love. It’s the foundation for all other love. It’s the foundation for trust and confidence and connection. It’s the foundation for life.

Even if you do fundamentally feel loveable and love yourself…how often do you treat yourself with love? What about showering yourself with love? This is an opportunity to spend an entire month learning about what helps you feel loveable and doing things to help you feel loved.

More details are coming soon.

Registration opens February 14th.

Filed under: Class, Love, Self-care, Self-love, Women — admin @ 6:57 pm