No More Sleeping Beauty!

May 2nd, 2014 by admin in Self-love, Sexual Being, Sexuality
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 Flaming June by Fredrick Lord Leighton

Flaming June by Fredrick Lord Leighton

Are you waiting for someone to come along and wake you up, sexually?

Are you hoping the right person will be able to teach you what you like and unlock your potential for pleasure?

I have talked with many women who shared that they wish a guy would come into their life and magically teach them how to fully embrace their sexuality.  I can understand the fantasy.  It sounds really appealing to have someone unlock your body’s pleasure.  It may feel like a relief to imagine someone who totally understands you and can share that information.  I suppose it is possible that the right person may come along at the right time in your life and have all of the right tools help you embrace your sexual pleasure.  However, I’ve never heard of that actually happening.  And if it’s what you are waiting for, you may have to wait a very long time.

Imagine if someone came to you and wanted you to teach them everything about their body? Would you feel excited? Honored? Overwhelmed Annoyed? Imagine the disappointment they might feel if you weren’t able to know all of the secret treasures…all of the specific kind of touch or areas that are pleasurable Imagine their resentment when you aren’t able to reach them in the way they imagined and imagine your frustration that they expect so much from you.

Sex with another person can show us things and teach us things and feel amazing. But you know what is even more amazing? - knowing your body, loving your body and then sharing that information with someone and building on that together.

Your pleasure is your responsibility. Yes, a partner can help. Yes, a partner can give you pleasure. And yes, you are more likely to feel pleasure with a partner if you know what you find pleasurable to begin with.

The BEST way to learn what feels good sexually is to find out on your own. Be your own best lover! You can then take the information you learn about your body and your pleasure and share it with your lover.  It’s possible you will then learn more about your body through your connection with your lover.  I hope that your pleasure can expand and grow with your partner. Start with your own understanding of your body and what feels good.  Start with connecting to yourself and your pleasure and then add connection with your partner to increase the experience.

Here are a few ways to connect with yourself –

Learn about sex and your body

Seduce yourself

Be Your Own Best Lover

Give Yourself Pleasure

Discover Who You Are Sexually

Empower yourself sexually! Don’t play the role of sleeping beauty, waiting for a prince to come along and wake you up sexually. Wake yourself up! Become a student of your body and your sexuality.

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