Archive: June, 2014

June 25, 2014

Honor Your Path

Photo by Trey Ratcliff

Photo by Trey Ratliff

Is there something you want in your life?

Do you have a goal (or many goals)?

Is there a behavior or situation you want to change?

Being in the present and acknowledging your present situation is so important. Sometimes it’s hard. The present can be painful or full of uncertainty. Your present may include grief or anger or discontent. Your present may feel very far from your goal or the change you want to create.

If you are feeling stuck, take a moment and look at where you’ve come from. This is different than dwelling in the past. This is not the high school quarterback who is pining for his youth. Looking at where you came from (while honoring your present) can highlight how far you have come.

Imagine a a long journey, if you only look at where you are going (and how far away it feels) you can feel discouraged. Don’t forget how far you’ve come.

As you honor your present and acknowledge your past, can you also envision your future? Where are you headed? Without a goal or a vision it is easy to feel stuck. What do you want?

Imagine your goal is to run 5 miles. When you started you could only run 1 mile. Now you can run 3. If you don’t look at where you came from you might be discouraged by the 3 miles, you might be hyper-focused on the 5 mile goal and forget to celebrate the 3 miles. However, If you forget that the goal is to run 5 miles you might just settle for the 3 miles you can run.You might lose focus and settle for less than what you truly want.

As you move toward change, ask yourself where you came from and where you are headed. As we move toward the midpoint of 2014, now is a good time to check in with yourself. What do you want this year? Where have you grown? How have you changed? Where are you headed?

If your path includes expanding your sexual expression, increasing desire, cultivating self-love or embracing pleasure, my online classes will help!

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June 17, 2014

50% Off All PDFs – Save the date!

I am so excited about my first 50% off sale! For one day only all my e-courses will be 50% off!

Save the Date – On June 30th you can purchase any of my Self-Study PDF’s for 50% off!


We are nearing the halfway mark of 2014. In the beginning of the year it’s easy to have momentum and excitement about change and focusing on yourself. I want to make it easy for your to honor your commitment to yourself – now is a great time to release shame, discover your sexual desire, connect with your body or focus on self-love.

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I love helping women create a deeper connection with themselves and with their partners. These classes are a wonderful way to explore intimacy and cultivate pleasure.  Visit my class page on Monday, June 30th and purchase any of my e-courses for 50% off!


June 14, 2014

Hooray for dads!

fathers day

As someone who has lost her dad to cancer, I know this day can be hard. I know it can be hard for those of us grieving and missing our fathers. I know it can be hard for dads who are missing their children and can’t be with them today. I know it can be hard for anyone who wishes their father was more of a loving presence in their lives. I know today can be painful for anyone who feels let down by their dad.

I also know there are many wonderful, loving, supportive, fantastic dads out there!

I celebrate Dads and Father Figures today.

And I also hold a little extra space in my heart for anyone struggling today.

Happy Father’s Day!

Filed under: Gratitude, Holidays, Parenting — admin @ 3:54 pm

June 10, 2014

i carry your heart with me

i carry your heart with me

by ee cummings

i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)

i fear
no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

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June 6, 2014

You are NOT Broken

There must be something wrong with me…

I don’t want sex as much as my partner does….

I feel like it takes me too long to climax…

I don’t like foreplay…

I’m not sure if I’ve ever had an orgasm…

I just don’t think about sex…

I don’t know how to be sexy…

I feel broken.

I hear some variation of the above all too often in my practice.

not broken

You aren’t sexy enough.

You dress too sexy, I can’t take you seriously.

You aren’t aggressive enough in bed.

You are too aggressive, it’s a turn off.

You are too ________________.

You aren’t ______________ enough.

Do this _____________ to please your man.

Stop doing this _______________ and find a husband.

The above messages are all around us. We read them standing in the checkout line, on the shelves of bookstores, or hear them coming out of the mouths of people we know.

The messages translate into –

You are not enough.

You are not right.

You are broken.

If you take nothing else from this article, please trust this – You are NOT broken!

Sometimes I struggle with sharing more information about sexuality because I don’t want to be one more voice telling women that they aren’t doing sex right. I don’t want to be one more voice telling women they need to do something else to be sexy for someone else. I don’t want to be one more voice telling women that they aren’t enough.

I won’t tell you that you are broken.

I don’t believe you are broken.

I don’t want to add my voice to the collective voices that are shouting about women’s sexually

So I made a list of all the reasons I’m write about sexuality and all the things I want people to learn.

Here is part of my list –

You are not alone

Ways to let go of the shame or worry you aren’t doing sex right

You are enough! Who you are is great!

Discovering your sexual truth

Holistic Sexuality

Connecting to your body, desire and passion

Self-love

More enjoyment of sex

Nowhere on that list does it say that women are broken unless they

view sex ___(this)___ way

or have sex ___(this)___ way

or act sexy ___(this)___ way.

You know why?

Because I don’t think you are broken.

I don’t want to turn you into someone else. I don’t want to teach you how to be a bad girl or make you into a sexy tiger. I don’t want you to pretend to be someone else.

I want to help you find your sexual truth.

I want to help you connect to your sexual essence

I want to help you discover your desire and what lights your fire.

I want to show you that you are unique. You are sexual (even if you don’t feel that way right now). You are OK. You are enough.

You are NOT broken.

What more information about your unique sexual experience? –  Subscribe to my free newsletter. I will send you something each month to remind you that you aren’t broken and help you connect to who you really are.

Would you like some helping connecting to your sexual truth? Find out more about my 10-week self-study class here.

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