You are NOT Broken

June 6th, 2014 by admin in Uncategorized
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There must be something wrong with me…

I don’t want sex as much as my partner does….

I feel like it takes me too long to climax…

I don’t like foreplay…

I’m not sure if I’ve ever had an orgasm…

I just don’t think about sex…

I don’t know how to be sexy…

I feel broken.

I hear some variation of the above all too often in my practice.

not broken

You aren’t sexy enough.

You dress too sexy, I can’t take you seriously.

You aren’t aggressive enough in bed.

You are too aggressive, it’s a turn off.

You are too ________________.

You aren’t ______________ enough.

Do this _____________ to please your man.

Stop doing this _______________ and find a husband.

The above messages are all around us. We read them standing in the checkout line, on the shelves of bookstores, or hear them coming out of the mouths of people we know.

The messages translate into –

You are not enough.

You are not right.

You are broken.

If you take nothing else from this article, please trust this – You are NOT broken!

Sometimes I struggle with sharing more information about sexuality because I don’t want to be one more voice telling women that they aren’t doing sex right. I don’t want to be one more voice telling women they need to do something else to be sexy for someone else. I don’t want to be one more voice telling women that they aren’t enough.

I won’t tell you that you are broken.

I don’t believe you are broken.

I don’t want to add my voice to the collective voices that are shouting about women’s sexually

So I made a list of all the reasons I’m write about sexuality and all the things I want people to learn.

Here is part of my list –

You are not alone

Ways to let go of the shame or worry you aren’t doing sex right

You are enough! Who you are is great!

Discovering your sexual truth

Holistic Sexuality

Connecting to your body, desire and passion


More enjoyment of sex

Nowhere on that list does it say that women are broken unless they

view sex ___(this)___ way

or have sex ___(this)___ way

or act sexy ___(this)___ way.

You know why?

Because I don’t think you are broken.

I don’t want to turn you into someone else. I don’t want to teach you how to be a bad girl or make you into a sexy tiger. I don’t want you to pretend to be someone else.

I want to help you find your sexual truth.

I want to help you connect to your sexual essence

I want to help you discover your desire and what lights your fire.

I want to show you that you are unique. You are sexual (even if you don’t feel that way right now). You are OK. You are enough.

You are NOT broken.

What more information about your unique sexual experience? –  Subscribe to my free newsletter. I will send you something each month to remind you that you aren’t broken and help you connect to who you really are.

Would you like some helping connecting to your sexual truth? Find out more about my 10-week self-study class here.

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