Archive: August, 2014

August 27, 2014

Touch Yourself – For Your HEALTH

I’ve written about masturbation being healthy. I’ve shared that pleasure not only feels good, it is good for your body.

Here is another reason you should touch yourselfEarly detection of any lumps, bumps or changes in your body.

If you are in a relationship your partner may have the landscape of your body memorized. He may be able to notice if the mole on your thigh has grown or your breasts feel different or there is a bump on your labia.

What keeps you from recognizing the same things?

If you are adverse to touching yourself you might not detect changes that need to be addressed. If you avoid running your hands over your body you might be missing something that needs medical attention. If you are disconnected from your body you aren’t prioritizing your heath.

Looking in the mirror is one thing. It’s important to be able to see changes. It’s also important to feel your body in order to recognize changes. Some things might not be detected by your eyes.

Here are some helpful links –

How to do a Breast Exam

Vaginal Self Exam

Testicular Self Exam

In addition to self exams, make your health a priority by regular visits to your doctor or health care provider.

Pleasure is a wonderful thing and it’s a lot easier to feel it and enjoy it when you are healthy!

Filed under: health,Sexuality — admin @ 11:54 am

August 15, 2014

Shower Your Partner with Love!


  • How much energy do you put into your relationship?
  • How often do you make your partner a priority?
  • How does your partner make sure you feel loved and cared for?

With so many things competing for our attention, it’s easy to put your relationship on the back burner. When there are deadlines at work, wee ones tugging on your sleeve or dust bunnies the size of elephants taking over you home – showering your partner with love is often not even on your radar.

A committed relationship offers comfort and stability. It’s nice to know someone has your back. It’s nice to know that someone will be there at the end of the day. It’s nice to be a part of a team.

It’s also easy to get a bit too comfortable. It’s easy to say “I love you” as part of a routine. It’s easy to tune out when asking about your partner’s day. It’s easy to really care about each other and still get into a rut. It’s easy to go through the motions or be on auto-pilot.

Shower Your Partner with love is 3 weeks dedicated to you and your partner. Three weeks of love and attention and romance and intimacy. Three weeks to take you from comfortable to connected – from after thought to after glow.

Couples often tell me how much they miss the “honeymoon phase.” This class won’t bring you back to that time (I can’t recreate all of the love chemicals that were going off in your brain when you first got together) but it will help you look at your partner as your LOVER rather than you co-manager or roommate. I will put your attention on the love you have for each other. I will give you ideas for ways you can turn up the volume on that love and and create some tenderness or heat in your relationship.

This class is for anyone who is in a loving relationship and wants –

  • To feel more connected
  • More romance
  • To make their relationship a priority
  • More joy in their relationship
  • Greater ease with sex or talking about sex (and more pleasure, passion or connection during sex)
  • to focus on the positive in your relationship
  • Tangible ways to help your partner feel loved and for your partner to help you feel loved
  • Daily connection or shared ritual in your relationship
  • More kindness in your relationship

What we’ll cover –

  • Specific ways you feel loved and how to share them with your partner
  • Cultivating gratitude in and for your relationship
  • Creating daily connection – no more ships just passing in the night
  • Ways to interrupt negative cycles and ways to create positive ones (love begets love, passion begets passion, hope begets hope)
  • Deepening intimacy – in and out of the bedroom
  • Sex – you know I couldn’t host a class for couples without throwing sex in there!
  • Romance
  • Small things you can do to make your relationship a priority
  • Giving and Receiving
  • And More…

How it works –

You will received an email every week day from September 8th – September 26th. The emails will include video, audio, writing prompts, activities and exercises. I’ll share tangible ways you can shower your partner with love (the beautiful thing is that you partner will get the same email and be showering you right back with love!).

For 3 weeks you will receive multiple ways and ideas to cultivate love in your relationship.

It’s a tune up for your relationship. 3 weeks dedicated to your love. 3 weeks where you can really focus on each other. 3 weeks where you can feel adored and also adore your partner.

After the 3 weeks you will receive a PDF version of all the material and you can revisit it on your own at any time.


$59 per couple

This class is currently full. The PDF will be available for purchase in October.

You wouldn’t expect your garden to grow without tending it. You don’t expect your car to run without filling it with gas or changing the oil. Your relationship (and your partner) will flourish when you put some energy toward it.

There are so many things competing for your attention – give yourself and your partner the gift of 3 weeks where you both are showered with love!

August 7, 2014

Coming Home to Your Body

I am so excited about the One Day Retreat I’m co-hosting with Nikki Weaver this fall!

Coming home to your body

Nikki and I are both moms. After we had our daughters we were talking about how strange we felt in our bodies – pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, healing, focusing so much attention on a tiny person – they all pulled energy from our bodies and focused it elsewhere. We started talking about tangible things we could do to reconnect to our bodies.

  • Yoga
  • Writing
  • Baths
  • Pleasure
  • Walking
  • Ritual
  • Creating Collages

And then we started talking about the work we do (yoga, therapy, personal-growth) and how many other women may be feeling disconnected from their bodies.

Pregnancy and birth aren’t the only things that shift how we feel in our bodies. There are so many other factors that can cause us to detach, disconnect or feel numb.

This workshop isn’t just for moms. This workshop is for anyone who wants to love her body more.

This retreat is for women who –

want a special space to slow down and connect to their centers

have experienced a change in their bodies – weight change, injury, illness, injury, pregnancy, birth, aging, etc.

want to feel more joy, sensuality or sexual energy

want to love and accept their bodies

spend most of their time in their head and feel disconnected from their bodies

focus most of their attention on other people and are ready for a day that is all about THEM!

This retreat is for women who want to feel more comfortable in and more connected to their bodies.

Read more about the retreat and register HERE.

August 1, 2014

What are you afraid of?

Image by Trey Ratcliff

Image by Trey Ratcliff

Fear has been coming up in my office a lot lately.

  • Fear of rejection.
  • Fear of getting hurt.
  • Fear of feeling exposed.
  • Fear of disappointment.
  • Fear of an unwanted response.
  • Fear of getting in trouble.
  • Fear of making the wrong choice.
  • Fear of looking foolish.

Fear of something bad happening or feeling some kind of pain.

Often when we feel fear we try to ignore it or talk ourselves out of it. We tell ourselves the fear is “irrational” or “unreasonable.” We shame ourselves for being weak or scared. We power through. We fight our fear.

Or we give the fear a ton of power and avoid doing the thing on the other side of the fear. The thought of the pain or consequences are too intense so we give up the dream or desire for the other thing. We tell ourselves that thing isn’t worth it or it’s not important.

I know fear isn’t pleasant.

I know fear can feel powerful.

I also know that just because I’m afraid doesn’t mean I shouldn’t do something.

I often feel fear before doing something that ends up being highly important. I was afraid to take a toddler to Paris. There were a bunch of things that could have gone wrote. There were many things I felt afraid of. And I also knew that if I didn’t do it I would regret it. I reminded myself that just because I’m afraid doesn’t mean I shouldn’t do it. I took a step back from my fear, I examined it, I got curious about it. And in the end I went anyway…and it was one of the best things I’ve ever done. I learned so much about my strength…things I never would have learned if I let my fear talk me out of it.

You don’t need to ignore your fear or talk yourself out of it. You also don’t need to be held prisoner by your fear. Here are some ways you can get curious about your fear and decide if you want to proceed with your desire.

  • Ask yourself what you are most afraid of – For example perhaps you are afraid of dating because you don’t want to fall in love and get hurt if the relationship doesn’t work out.
  • And what happens if that happens? – It will feel painful. I will be sad. I will feel rejected.
  • And then what? – I will get jaded. I will shut down. I will be alone.
  • And what happens if you don’t do the thing you are afraid of? – If I don’t date, I will still be alone. (And you will have missed out on the joy you felt when the relationship was working).

Can you see that by not doing the thing you are afraid of, you may end up in the same place you fear?????

If you are afraid of initiating sex with your partner because you will feel rejected and therefore avoid initiating sex…you still end up in a situation where you aren’t having sex and you feel alone and undesirable.

If you are afraid of traveling because some bad thing might happen…that bad thing can still happen at home.

If you are afraid of taking a risk because you will feel foolish, you may protect yourself from feeling foolish…but you also protect yourself from the reward that can come with that risk.

What are you afraid of?

And what’s the worst thing that can happen if you acknowledge your fear and then do it anyway?

Filed under: Change,Strength — admin @ 11:59 am