Archive: October, 2019

October 24, 2019

What happens on a Vibrant Living Retreat?

I’ve been back from Italy for over a month and I’m still basking in the afterglow of that marvelous time. So many people have asked me what we do on retreat and I find myself having a hard time coming up with the right words.

We connect

We grow

We laugh

We move our bodies

We explore pleasure and joy and sensuality and presence and emotions and open-hearted living and desire and boundaries and naming our wants

We eat (we eat sooooo well)

 

We explore

I can tell you that before the retreat many of the participants told me that wanted to change in some way…and that as I was leaving the villa I felt transformed.

Powerful things happen when we gather in community and share and name things that are scary or exciting or vulnerable.

Here are some of the other things that happened on this Vibrant Living Italy 2019 Retreat.

 

We stayed at an incredible villa with a pool and a private chef.

Nikki lead us in yoga for an hour and a half every morning.

We named intentions for the week, created soul collages, pulled cards and also created a vibrant living playlist.

I lead classes.

People shared what was on their hearts.

We went wine tasting (at a vineyard owned by an incredible woman).

We took a few trips to nearby towns – visited churches and wandered down alleys and shopped and ate gelato.

We talked a lot about what we want – how to identify, the importance of naming it and how to move toward it.

I shared that this retreat was a big want of mine and it wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t said it out loud during a Portland retreat the year before. And later that day we headed to dinner at a restaurant in Lucca.

I had told some of the women about how much I love pistachio gelato and how excited I was to have it that afternoon. As we walked to the restaurant they asked if I had had my gelato and I oohed and ached about it. Ten minutes later we sat down at the table and the owner greeted us and looked at me and said, “You are going to love our special. Pistachio Pasta!” (of course I had it and I’m still dreaming about it!)

There were many moments like this that are not quantifiable. Sometimes magic happens on retreats.

There were so many beautiful moments and interactions that were influenced by the glorious combination of the 10 women who joined us.

I am changed. And I am forever grateful.

The experience was so powerful for both me and for Nikki that we’ve already decided to go back to Italy for Vibrant Living Italy 2020 next fall!

I’ll be sharing those details soon!


October 13, 2019

Tending a Broken Heart

The loss of a relationship, a job, friendship, a dream, a loved one, etc can be so painful!

It’s easy to want to shut down the pain or numb the experience. It’s easy to want to skip this part. It’s easy to want things to go back to the way they were before you felt this way.

We don’t always feel the growth or the expansion when we are in it. Sometimes the learning or the evolution is more obvious later…after we’ve moved through the pain. And in order to get there, we do have to move through the pain.

If you are finding yourself with a broken or tender heart, here are some things that may help.

Shutting down, disconnecting, or pretending you aren’t in pain doesn’t actually initiate healing…you may feel temporary relief, but the pain becomes encapsulated and continues to live in your body

Feel your feelings 
again and again

Do things that are good for you
move your body
take a bath
drink water

Get support
Be honest about your hurting
Let your people wrap you up in love and comfort

Check your stories
Don’t romanticize
Don’t villainize
Take accountability for your part

Get clear about what you want to bring with you and what you want to leave behind
Set some boundaries
You may have to change habits as you heal.
What do you need in terms of space?
What do you need in terms of time?

Be gentle with yourself.

Treat yourself the way you would treat someone you love

Be patient

It’s hard. I know.

Remember that this part is temporary.
And necessary

This part will lead to the next part.
And the next part is going to be LOVELY!

PS – if you are going through a breakup, our Swoon Episode – Breaking up is hard to do:Breakup Recovery may help.

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