Archive: December, 2019

December 31, 2019

New Year’s Resolutions for Your Relationship

I love this time of year. For me it is full of time with my family, possibility, exploring dreams and desires, and hope.

It’s the time of year when you reflect on your life and what you want to change. Most of the time we create personal intentions or resolutions.

What about your relationship?

What do you want?

What would you like to leave behind in 2019 and what do you want to create or commit to in 2020?

Here are some intentions or goals to explore with your partner – 

  • Commit to a Date Night – Schedule some time together. You can get dolled up and go out on the town, go for a walk, or even spend some quality time at home together. The important thing is that you are making time for each other and making your relationship a priority.
  • Try something new – Trying a new activity or hobby can be exciting and it’s great if you two can share that excitement together. Check out a dance class, join an organization or even take a trip to your local adult toy store to pick up some new bedroom accessories.
  • Focus on the Positive – Sometimes relationships can get bogged down by negativity. We all like to feel appreciated and loved. When is the last time you told your partner how sexy he is? or how much you admire her? or how proud you are of them? Instead of focusing on what your partner isn’t doing, what would it be like to focus on what he is doing? It’s nice to receive compliments. It’s nice to feel appreciated. It’s nice to feel loved. What can you do this year (and for years to come) to make sure the positive interactions outweigh the negative in your relationship? You can make this tangible by creating a gratitude journal or a happiness jar together.
  • Learn some skills – Just like any other area of your life, relationships require energy and effort. Take a class on communication, commit to fighting fairly, work with a coach or therapist or read a book together. Put some energy into your relationship and watch it come back to you!
  • Make small rituals a priority –  You can increase intimacy and deepen your connection by focusing on small daily rituals. Start and/or end your day together, hug, kiss, talk about what’s on your mind or in your heart. I love this graphic from the Gottman Institute with more ideas about small ways to prioritize connection and intimacy.

This week’s Swoon also has strategies for reflecting on the past year and setting intentions for stronger partnerships in the coming year.

If you are feeling inspired and excited by the new year, take a little time to include your relationship on your resolution list. It’s doesn’t need to take a ton of time or more to shift things in a positive direction. You can focus on gratitude, more time together, turning up the heat in the bedroom or even choosing a word of the year for your relationship. Where you put your attention grows. Put your attention on your relationship in 2020 and feel your love expand!

Filed under: Change,Intimacy,Marriage,Relationship — admin @ 10:44 am

December 20, 2019

Come to Italy with me!

Join me and Nikki Weaver for a luscious and life-changing retreat in our own Tuscan Villa!

 

Vibrant Living – A Woman’s Retreat in Italy!

September 5-12, 2020

 

As you stand in the crystalline water you look to your right and see a friend reading a book on a lounge chair. To the left you see a trio of women doing yoga in the grass. You pause and notice the way the water feels against your skin. You move your hands, skimming the surface of the pool, drinking in the sensuality of the moment. A slight breeze makes the hair on the back of your neck dance around. You hear laughter in the distance and lift your face toward the sun feeling the heat warm your cheeks.

You pause and drink it all in before going back to your room to get ready for dinner. When you arrive at the table, you are greeted you with a hug and a glass of wine. You pass dishes of colorful and nourishing food as you talk about your day and the previous week. You talk about the adventures, the breakthroughs, the things you’ve learned, the gelato, the pleasure and the sacred moments. You look around the room and see each of these beautiful women lit up from the inside. You close your eyes and capture this moment. You want to bring this back home with you. You want to remember how alive you feel. You want to remember how beautiful you are. You want to remember this trip and all of the ways you have awakened and embraced pleasure.


Are you ready to feel good? Really, really good?

  • Are you ready for sensual living?

  • Are you ready to move your body in ways that feel enlivening?

  • Are you ready for delicious food?

  • Are you ready to name and honor what you want?

  • Are you ready to feel in love with yourself and with your life?

  • Are you ready for travel, adventure and transformative experiences?

  • Are you ready to gather in Italy with a group of wonderful women and embrace pleasure, presence and luscious living?

Why Pleasure?

Life is hard. It can be exhausting. As women we are often pulled in many directions and trying to do it all (and do it perfectly). Often your wants and needs and desire are not only put on the back burner, they are buried. There are too many other things competing for your time and attention.

Pleasure is “a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment.” When you connect to that satisfaction and enjoyment, the rest of life is easier. When you engage with pleasure you bring richness, vibrancy and joy into your life. Pleasure fills your bucket and gives you energy. Pleasure feels good. It lights us up.

This retreat is for women who –

  • Are ready to focus on their own pleasure and enjoyment

  • Are looking to be inspired

  • Want to move their bodies in a way that feels good and be fully embodied

  • Want to connect with other delightful women in a meaningful way

  • Are committed to honoring themselves

  • Are ready to let their light shine, feel great and live a life they truly love!

What you will experience

  • Daily yoga lead by Nikki

  • Daily workshops with Julie – We will explore pleasure, sensuality, honoring our wants and needs, passion, open-hearted living, and more. Workshops will include: education, inspiration and space for sharing and dialogue with the group. Magic happens when you get a group of women together. It’s in the space of a group that we learn we are not alone. It’s in the space of a group that you can really be seen and understood.

  • Excursions to attractions in Tuscany (wine tasting, an afternoon in Lucca, cooking lessons, and more)

  • Free time to relax at our private villa (enjoy the pool, the many indoor and outdoor sitting areas, or explore the countryside)

  • Time with an intimate group of women where you can talk about your experience and what you want in your life (this retreat is limited to 14 women)

You can read more about the retreat (and all the delicious details) here!

Gathering on retreat isn’t about escaping your life. We gather in this beautiful location as a way to pause, center, fill up and then bring that luscious energy back to our lives. Our goal is that you will leave this retreat feeling nourished, engaged, inspired and Vibrant!