Archive: Body-Image

January 19, 2018

Be Your Own Beloved: a gathering for women

be your own beloved

Nikki Weaver and I are thrilled to offer – Be Your Own Beloved!

Together we’ll explore what it means to love, honor and cherish ourselves!

One of the things we hear over and over from women is that it is so hard to prioritize yourself. Maybe you don’t have time or energy. Maybe you feel guilty or selfish. Maybe you are just too tired or depleted. Perhaps you don’t even know what it means to prioritize yourself. We get it. We know it can feel hard or even foreign to really focus on yourself (and asking you to do more than prioritize yourself, but treat yourself like you are beloved, may even feel scary!)

We also know the power of self-care, self-acceptance and self-love! We know that amazing things happen in your life when you love yourself and honor yourself. And we know the power of gathering a group of women! We know how validating and life-giving it is to sit with other women and laugh or cry or listen or share and hear, “me too!” or “You are not alone!”

Powerful things happen when we gather. Beautiful things happen when we gather. We are so excited to gather with YOU!

Together we will explore –

Self-care, self-love, self-acceptance – what do they all mean and how do you do them?

Being in your body and feeling pleasure in your body

What it means to be your own BELOVED

Light movement and exercises that will help you delight in your own body

Exercises and practices to help you honor your own wants and needs and treat yourself like the precious woman you are!

A Few Logistics –

April 21st from 11am-3pm

This event is limited to 12 women

We will have snacks and drinks

The location is NE Portland. We will send you the address after your register.

The cost is $100

Registration is closed. Subscribe to my free newsletter to receive updates about our future offerings.

What would it be like to also attend to your own wants and needs? What would it be like to prioritize yourself and your pleasure? What would it be like to be your own beloved?

August 29, 2016

Self Acceptance is an act of love

self acceptance as an act of love

Photo by Stacy De La Rosa

Are there parts of yourself you have a hard time loving?

Does your inner critic insist that you need to be better, smarter, thinner, kinder or more attractive?

Do you tell yourself once you lose the weight or find your mate or get your dream job – that THEN you will be able to love yourself?

Self acceptance is an act of love.

Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up. It is not resignation or forfeiture.

You can want to change or shift or grow and still love and accept yourself.

You can strive for more and also accept yourself. You can love yourself and want more. You can love yourself and want to change.

In fact, you are more likely to grow and shift and change and expand when you are operating from a base of love.

Self acceptance doesn’t mean pretending to love yourself or pretending you are excited about something that you want to be different.

Acceptance is an acknowledgement.

Acceptance is unconditional love.

It is surrender.

It’s a full exhale.

It’s an honoring of who you are and what is true.

Self acceptance is an act of love.

Filed under: Body-Image,Love,Self-care,Self-love — admin @ 3:41 pm

July 27, 2016

Be in your body


Are you connected to your body?

Do you pause and check in with your body throughout the day? Right now, can you put your attention on your feet, your arms, you belly, you genitals? What do you notice?

So many of us are busy. We are over scheduled and under rested. We are running from one thing to the next and rather than slowing down and feeling our body, we are constantly in our heads thinking about what is next (or worrying about what we didn’t get done).

We are living in our heads and not our bodies.

It’s great to spend time in your head. It will help you balance your checkbook, remember to turn the stove off and drive your car to work.

Being in your head doesn’t help you feel joy, open to a spectacular sexual experience or dance with abandon! In fact. if you are in your head when you have sex or dance you will often be second guessing what you are doing – ‘How do I look right now? Is my partner enjoying this? Am I taking too long?’

If you are in your head, you are thinking (or worrying) about your experience rather than truly living in.

Being in your body helps you FEEL your experience. It allows you to open to pleasure, joy, passion or excitement.

One of the easiest ways to be in your body is to tune into your senses –

What do I feel, taste, hear, smell or see?

You can check in with your senses throughout the day or really focus on them when you are in your head but want to be in your body (this is a great tool to use during sex!)

Being in your body is a key ingredient for unbridled joy and great sex. It’s something that I’ve talked about at length in my Sensuous Woman Facebook group. If you would like to be part of a community with other women who are tuning in to pleasure, joy, self-care and sensuality, please join my private Facebook group.

Filed under: Body-Image,Desire,health,Joy,Pleasure,Self-care,Self-love,Sensuality — admin @ 9:23 am

December 18, 2015

Why Paris?

Fifteen years ago I flew from Los Angeles to London and joined my friend (who flew from New York to London) for an adventure. We hadn’t seen each other in a couple years and both really wanted to travel. We lived on opposite sides of the US and decided to meet in London, spend some time there and then fly to Paris together.

London was lovely.

Paris is where I fell in love with myself.

eiffel rose

I woke up. I tuned in. I blossomed.

And that continues to happen every time return to Paris.

I’ve gone with with a partner. I’ve gone there as a single mom with a 20 month old toddler. I’ve gone there with a good friend and our young daughters. And every time, I expand. I light up. I love my life more.

Every time I’ve gone  I’ve been a different version of myself. My life has been different. Yet, I still comeback to the version of Julie that I love so much. In Paris, I slow down. I make time for pleasure and beauty. I let myself be seen. I connect to my feminine power.

So why Paris?

Because it is the place I feel most alive. It is the place that instantly brings me into a pleasure position and a receiving position.

I love being a woman. I love it even more in Paris.

I love pleasure. Pleasure is undeniable in Paris.

I love sensuality. I embody sensuality in Paris.

We could do this anywhere. We could gather and explore pleasure and sensuality and luscious living.

But why not do it in Paris?

Why not have a life changing and memorable experience in a life changing and memorable place?

Why not amplify the beauty, the pleasure, the sensuality, the vibrancy, the lusciousness of the experience?

Why not gather and connect with other passionate women, explore these themes together, and then have time to explore Paris?

Why not do it while drinking wine and eating a croissant aux amandes?

Why not come to Paris, let someone else take care of the details about where you will stay and plan adventures for you and then you get to just engage, indulge and have a ball?

Why not Paris?

There is still space in my Pleasure in Paris retreat this spring. Learn more about it here.

Come to Paris with me. It will change your life.

November 18, 2015

Do You Owe Your Body an Apology?

belly love

How do you connect with your body on a regular basis? Do you thank your legs when you apply your lotion. Do you caress your belly with love when you are in the shower? Do you look in the mirror and say, “Hello, Gorgeous!” each day?

What happens when you look in the mirror?

If you are like most people, you may be quick to notice the things you don’t like about your appearance. You may ONLY notice the things you don’t like. More than that, you may speak to your body (and yourself) in a way you would never speak to anyone else.

Do you call yourself fat? Or old? Or ugly?

Would you say any of that to a friend?

Do you suck in your stomach, or lift up your chin?

Would you tell your friend to suck in her stomach?

How do you talk to your body?

And how do you talk about your body?

If your lover tells you he adores your breasts, how do you respond?

If someone tells you you look great, how do you respond?

How do you describe yourself to others? Do you talk about your glorious thighs and your breathtaking butt?

If you spoke to a young child the way you speak to yourself, would it be considered abuse?

Do you believe that your body isn’t affected by the poison you are spewing. If you call yourself fat often enough, you will start to believe it. If you obsess over the lines on your face, pretty soon that is all you will see. Your words matter. What you say matters. How you treat yourself matters.

Do you owe your body an apology?

Look in the mirror and apologize. You can do this with a specific body part.

Dear stomach, I’m sorry I called you flabby.

And then say something you love about that body part.

I love that you housed my baby for 9 months. Thank you!

Do this over and over with all of the parts of yourself you have disowned or criticized.

When you look in the mirror, notice what looks good. Look for your beauty Acknowledge your beauty.

And express gratitude to your body.

Dear mouth, thank you for being so quick to smile! I love the way red lipstick looks on you.

Dear legs, thank you for keeping me moving. I’m so grateful that you work so well.

Choose your words. Be mindful of how you speak to and about your body.

And infuse your body with love whenever you can. When you put on lotion, send your body love. When you lather up in the shower, notice how great your body feels under your fingertips.

If there are things you don’t love about your body, by all means, work on changing them. But you don’t have to be hateful to yourself (and your body) in the meantime. You can still speak and act with love!

Nothing good comes from you hating your body. You can’t hate yourself thinner or younger or prettier. You won’t feel better about yourself if you hate your body. You won’t feel better about other people if you hate your body. Treating your body poorly won’t help you in any way. It just makes you feel bad.

Loving your body will make your life better. Loving your body will help you love others. Loving your body will spark gratitude for all of the amazing things it can do. Loving your body will enrich your life!

Filed under: Body-Image,Change,Self-love — admin @ 10:45 am

May 27, 2015

Take a Sexy Selfie

sexy selfie

Take a sexy selfie…

and keep it to yourself!

So much of our personal experience is now shared publicly. We post pictures of our food, our clothing choices, our vacations, our experiences and ourselves. There is a lot about this that is wonderful! I’m inspired by other’s photos and adventures. I love seeing your joy and passion. And sometimes it’s easy to believe our lives pale in comparison.

It’s easy to think “real life” isn’t interesting enough. It’s easy to wash things out or pump them up with filters. It’s easy to be influenced by what others might think rather than what we think.

So I’m suggesting you take a smoking hot picture of yourself, just for you.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with you sharing your beauty with others. I just wonder what would happen if you saw yourself through your own eyes, unfiltered. Maybe you would let a certain part of your body stay in the picture, or you wouldn’t suck something in or push something else out. Maybe you would be able to see yourself as you are and see your true beauty.

Maybe how YOU feel and what YOU think is most important.

Maybe it doesn’t matter if others tell you you are sexy.

Maybe what really matters is that you see it yourself.

Filed under: Body-Image,Intimacy,Pleasure — admin @ 1:58 pm

August 7, 2014

Coming Home to Your Body

I am so excited about the One Day Retreat I’m co-hosting with Nikki Weaver this fall!

Coming home to your body

Nikki and I are both moms. After we had our daughters we were talking about how strange we felt in our bodies – pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, healing, focusing so much attention on a tiny person – they all pulled energy from our bodies and focused it elsewhere. We started talking about tangible things we could do to reconnect to our bodies.

  • Yoga
  • Writing
  • Baths
  • Pleasure
  • Walking
  • Ritual
  • Creating Collages

And then we started talking about the work we do (yoga, therapy, personal-growth) and how many other women may be feeling disconnected from their bodies.

Pregnancy and birth aren’t the only things that shift how we feel in our bodies. There are so many other factors that can cause us to detach, disconnect or feel numb.

This workshop isn’t just for moms. This workshop is for anyone who wants to love her body more.

This retreat is for women who –

want a special space to slow down and connect to their centers

have experienced a change in their bodies – weight change, injury, illness, injury, pregnancy, birth, aging, etc.

want to feel more joy, sensuality or sexual energy

want to love and accept their bodies

spend most of their time in their head and feel disconnected from their bodies

focus most of their attention on other people and are ready for a day that is all about THEM!

This retreat is for women who want to feel more comfortable in and more connected to their bodies.

Read more about the retreat and register HERE.

February 23, 2014

Shower Yourself With Love


Are you ready? Ready for –

An entire month dedicated to YOU!

An entire month of LOVE!

An entire month where you get to be a priority!

Shower Yourself With Love – An online class for women.

April showers bring May flowers. What will a month of love bring?

4 weeks

March 31 – April 27th

We throw bridal showers to honor future brides and baby showers to honor future moms…what about showering YOURSELF with love?
If I had one wish, it would be that everyone feels love…a love that originates from inside…a knowing that you are lovable and enough and worthy. Yes, world peace or ending hunger or saving the planet…all of those things pull at me as well. But the one thing I see in my office over and over, the one thing I see that causes pain and uncertainty and judgement and anger and feelings of worthlessness is a lack of self love. Self love. It’s the foundation for all other love. It’s the foundation for trust and confidence and connection. It’s the foundation for life.

Even if you do fundamentally feel loveable and love yourself…how often do you treat yourself with love? What about showering yourself with love? This is an opportunity to spend an entire month learning about what helps you feel loveable and doing things to help you feel loved.

4 Weeks of Love!

4 Weeks of Self-Love!

You will Receive –

An email every Monday, Wednesday and Friday from March 31st – May 3rd.

Exercises, journal prompts and activities.

A video each week.

Spreecasts where you can ask questions or check in with other participants.

We will cover

Self love – what is it, what does it feel like, where does it come from?

What gets in the way of love?

Self-esteem (how is that different than self-love?)

Telling your inner critic to pipe down!

Self-care VS. Self-love – How are they different? How are they connected?

Being your own best lover

Loving your body and your sexual self

Ways to feel love EVERY day

Cultivating Pleasure, Joy, Gratitude and Intimacy – see how these things turn up the volume on love

and MORE…

Are you ready?  Ready to soak it all in?  Ready to infuse yourself with love?  Ready to shower yourself with love?

Maybe you feel fundamentally lovable – but you are tired and disconnected or overwhelmed…this class will fill you up, replenish you and remind you who you are.

This isn’t just a little bit of self-love – it’s a full on shower. I am ready for it!  Ready for a month of full-volume, light shining, graciously receiving, brimming to the top with goodness self-lovin’!

Will you let me help you love yourself?

It’s only $39. Trust me, love, you are worth it!

Registration is currently closed. Look for the PDF to be released in early May.

February 12, 2014

No More Sexy Tiger!

(Unless you want to be a sexy tiger, of course!)

Sexy Tiger Class

Do you know my very favorite things to talk about? The work that makes me most excited and lights me up? I LOVE helping women discover who they are sexually. I LOVE witnessing who they truly are (not who someone else told them they should be). I LOVE creating connections, leading excavation and hearing their truths. It’s exhilarating. And humbling. And beautiful. And moving. And wonderful!

After a year of in-person groups and online classes, I’m thrilled (is there a bigger word than thrilled? Because I am more than thrilled!) to share a new self-study course so you can discover your sexuality at your own pace and at home.

“You Don’t Have to be a Sexy Tiger: Discover YOUR Sexual Self!” Self-Study Course

You get all of the good stuff from my “You Don’t Have to be a Sexy Tiger: Discover YOUR Sexual Self!” e-course, packed into a 73-page PDF.

  • 10 Weeks of Questions, Activities and Exercises
  • 10 Weeks of Information and Lessons
  • 11 Videos
  • 10 Conference Calls

All delivered to your inbox and designed to help you get to the root of your sexuality, your desires, your SELF!

Course Topics –

  • What is a Sexual Being? What does it mean to be sexual?
  • Know Your Body – Anatomy and Body Image
  • Sensuality – Romance – Love
  • Discover What you like – Pleasure – Orgasm
  • Desire – Passion – Creativity
  • Shame
  • Vulnerability – Intimacy – Asking for what you want
  • What does sexy look like? – Power – Flirting – Seduction
  • How does sexuality fit in with the rest of your life? – Getting Sex on your Radar
  • Putting it all together – You know who you are, what if you don’t like it?

I am so excited about this class and the way it is awakening women’s sexual desire and expression.

If you are ready to have a better understanding of your sexuality, this class is for you!

Discover your sexual truth for $99!

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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~Anais Nin

Are you ready to blossom into your authentic sexual self?

December 18, 2013

Vaginas Are Like Snowflakes!

vagina roses

  • “But my other girlfriends always liked it when I touched them like that.”
  • “I don’t look like other people, down there.”
  • “I should be able to have an orgasm that way.”

Where did you learn about your anatomy? What did you learn? Where and what did you learn about other bodies?

Just like sex is not one-size-fits all…our bodies aren’t either.

Our sexual preferences are personal and our genitals and erogenous zones are unique.

If you are trying to touch your lover the way you’ve touched every other lover, it may not resonate. If you are trying to adapt your idea of beauty or your body to what you see elsewhere, you may feel “less than.”

Vaginas and vulvas and labia and clitorises come in different shapes and sizes and levels of sensitivity. That is fantastic. Part of self love is truly getting to know your body.  Part of a relationship is getting to know how to reach your partner. Part of sex is connecting with your lover.

What if you forgot what worked in the past and took the time to learn what works now. Is that scary? Starting with a blank canvas. Is it liberating?

It pains me to hear about women who are getting surgeries to change their genitals and then still feeling like they don’t look quite right. It pains me to hear of women who feel betrayed by their bodies because they don’t react the way their partner suggests they should.

What if the problem isn’t with your vagina…but with our lack of sex education or the way vaginas are portrayed in our culture.

And if you are frustrated with your partner’s vagina…what if the frustration really stems from your difficulty giving her pleasure? Perhaps instead of trying to do the same thing over and over again, you can take the time to try something new and find a way to reach your lover and plug into their arousal.

Vaginas (and vulvas and clitorises and labia) are like snowflakes. Beautifully unique.

You are not broken. You are unique and lovely and beautiful. Take the time to appreciate your body and get in touch with what works for you.

Filed under: Body-Image,Self-love,Sexual Being,Sexuality,Women — admin @ 1:04 pm

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