Archive: Seduction

January 19, 2017

Awaken the Want

Turned On FINAL sans dates - lorez

Awaken the Want
and evening of exploration and storytelling
with Isabel Abbott and Julie Jeske

an evening of heeding the hunger and permission to want
and of finding the words to speak of all the things we are told to keep quiet.
of entering into the wide range of experiences in the geography of desire and arousal,
wanting and consent, giving and receiving.

There will be time to ask and enter into your questions,
reflect on your own embodied experiences and the languages of desire.
We will be listening to the space where the body and voice connect,
and what it feels like to locate our own self in our sexuality and experiences,
We will eat delicious food and sit in a safe space and begin to tell our stories.

And we would oh so love to have you there.
Thursday, May 4th

Portland, OR

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June 21, 2016

Treat Your Partner Like Your Lover

I know things don’t feel the same as they did when you first started your relationship. As time goes on, relationships change. They change in many wonderful ways, and sometimes they feel less exciting, less intimate, less sexy.

I made a three-minute video talking about one small way you can shift your relationship.

Take a moment. Imagine you were preparing for your lover. How would you proceed? How would your routine change? How would your energy change? How would your intention or perception shift?

Our language is powerful. How you talk about your relationship or your partner, can affect how you feel. What you call your partner, lover, spouse, mate, beloved, significant other, or better half can influence how you feel about them.

Try it.

For a week, a weekend or even day, treat your partner like you would treat your lover. Notice how you feel and notice how your lover responds to you.

Valentine Couple

If you would like 6 more tips to help you prioritize your relationship (and sex) get my free 6-page guide to help you reclaim your sex life!

December 27, 2015

What Turns You On?


What turns you on?

What excites you?

What warms your body? What makes your breath change and your chest flush?

What arouses you?

We put a lot of attention on desire. I hear from many people who are experiencing low desire. People talk about wanting to feel more desire or experience desire in a different way. What about arousal?

It’s easy to focus on desire and just stop there. I don’t feel the desire to have sex so I’m going to stop thinking about sex. I’m just going to write it off.

Here’s the thing –

If you know what turns you on, you will have a greater desire for sex.

If you know what excites you, you will be more interested in sex.

If you know what arouses you, sex is more appealing.

So what turns you on?

If you aren’t sure, focus on sensuality. What excites your senses? What do you like to see, hear, smell, taste or touch?

Pleasure is also a pathway to arousal. What feels good? What makes your breath deepen or your pulse quicken? What entices you to roll your hips or arch your back? How do you want to be kissed, licked, caressed or held?

If you aren’t sure, spend some time getting to know your body. Or focus on foreplay with a partner, what warms you up and invites you to say, “Yes!”

And know that what turns you on can change. So be curious. Explore. Stay connected to your body, your pleasure and your arousal.

You can also cultivate arousal out of the bedroom. What excites you about life? What turns you on? My post – Turned On Living my interest you.

July 4, 2012

5 Ways to Light Some Fireworks in the Bedroom!


Setting off some fireworks this 4th of July?  Leave the lights in the sky to the professionals and instead focus on creating fireworks in your relationship.

Here are a few ways to light that spark with your partner.

  • Go Back to Junior High

Remember what a big deal kissing used to be?  Or holding hands?  As relationships progress we often forget to go back to the basics, instead opting for intercourse as the “end all be all” of sex.  Have fun by making out, going to second base or doing other things you used to do together before you went “all the way.”

  • Create Intimacy Outside of the Bedroom

Trying connecting in intimate ways that don’t involve sex.  Talk about your goals, hopes or fears.  Cuddle up on the couch.  Take a walk or go on a date.  Share a really juicy kiss (for not reason at all).  Focus on your connection outside of the bedroom and notice how things heat up in the bedroom.

  • Seduce Your Partner

After a while we can fall into a routine.  Not only do people have sex the same ways, they also initiate in the same old ways.  Set up a seduction scenario for your partner and watch how excited he or she gets!

  • Show Your Partner What Feels Good

Knowing what you want in the bedroom is sexy.  Show your partner what feels good and how you like to be touched.  Giving in the bedroom is often appreciated, but knowing their partner is enjoying sex turns on many people.

  • Play with Power

Notice what it’s like to be dominant or submissive.  Play with being “in charge” or letting your partner take the lead.  Plenty of people who are “in control” outside of the bedroom like how feels to be tied up in bed.

Have a Safe, Happy (and SEXY) 4th of July!

Looking for more ways to heat things up in the bedroom?  Check out the other posts.

5 Small Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Set the Mood for Lovemaking

Have Vacation Sex Without Leaving Your Home

Shake Up Your Sexual Routine

Filed under: Holidays,Relationship,Seduction,Sexuality — admin @ 4:38 pm

August 1, 2011

Spice Up Your Sex Life with a Seduction Bowl

Here is a new tool to add to your sexual tool belt.

If you are looking for ways to break out of your sexual routine…or if you need a little help with initiating sex – a Seduction Bowl is a great resource!

Filed under: Relationship,Seduction,Sexuality,Video — admin @ 9:15 am

October 31, 2010

The Lost Art of Seduction

Loving couple having intimate moments

How do you seduce your partner?

  • Candles, music and chocolate
  • A sexy text on my way home, telling him to get ready for me
  • A sensual massage
  • I grab her from behind and kiss her neck
  • It starts with an intimate and connecting conversation
  • I leave a trail of my clothes for him to find when he comes home from work. They lead to the bedroom. When he gets to the room, he finds me naked.
  • Have a bath drawn for your partner when she gets home…add a glass of wine, a massage and spend lots of time on foreplay
  • Make a sexy dinner, full of sensual food and serve it in an apron and nothing else

If you’ve been together for a while, you might not be seducing each other at all. The lead up to your lovemaking might be habit, routine or something more like a contract rather than a seduction (if we can have sex now I will do the dishes and walk the dog later tonight).

Sometimes I talk with people who say that don’t know how to seduce their partner. They feel silly or unsure or they just blank. You can use some of the ideas listed above. Or you could go right to the source. Ask your partner how she wants to be seduced. Ask what she thinks is sexy or what she fantasizes about. And make sure you reciprocate by sharing how you would like to be seduced. Create a “seduction box” and fill it with scenarios you each find appealing. Then when you are feeling frisky, pull a seduction suggestion out of the box and use it to inspire you.

Part of what makes us feel cared for or beloved is knowing our partner is thinking about us and putting effort into the relationship. You don’t have to plan a day long seduction or be a sexual dynamo to make your partner feel loved. Put a little attention into your seduction and watch that energy come back to you.

Single? No problem! Read this post for a little help seducing yourself!

Filed under: Intimacy,Relationship,Romance,Seduction — admin @ 11:46 pm