Archive: Sensuality

January 20, 2019

Come to Italy with me!

Vibrant Living Italy

Join me and Nikki Weaver for a luscious and life-changing retreat in our own Tuscan Villa!

As you stand in the crystalline water you look to your right and see a friend reading a book on a lounge chair. To the left you see a trio of women doing yoga in the grass. You pause and notice the way the water feels against your skin. You move your hands, skimming the surface of the pool, drinking in the sensuality of the moment. A slight breeze makes the hair on the back of your neck dance around. You hear laughter in the distance and lift your face toward the sun feeling the heat warm your cheeks.

You pause and drink it all in before going back to your room to get ready for dinner. When you arrive at the table, you are greeted you with a hug and a glass of wine. You pass dishes of colorful and nourishing food as you talk about your day and the previous week. You talk about the adventures, the breakthroughs, the things you’ve learned, the gelato, the pleasure and the sacred moments. You look around the room and see each of these beautiful women lit up from the inside. You close your eyes and capture this moment. You want to bring this back home with you. You want to remember how alive you feel. You want to remember how beautiful you are. You want to remember this trip and all of the ways you have awakened and embraced pleasure.


Are you ready to feel good? Really, really good?

  • Are you ready for sensual living?

  • Are you ready to move your body in ways that feel enlivening?

  • Are you ready for delicious food?

  • Are you ready to honor what you want?

  • Are you ready to feel in love with life and lit up from the inside?

  • Are you ready for travel, adventure and transformative experiences?

  • Are you ready to gather in Italy with a group of wonderful women and embrace pleasure, presence and luscious living?

Why Pleasure?

Life is hard. It can be exhausting. As women we are often pulled in many directions and trying to do it all (and do it perfectly). Often your wants and needs and desire are not only put on the back burner, they are buried. There are too many other things competing for your time and attention.

Pleasure is “a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment.” When you connect to that satisfaction and enjoyment, the rest of life is easier. When you engage with pleasure you bring richness, vibrancy and joy into your life. Pleasure fills your bucket and gives you energy. Pleasure feels good. It lights us up.

This retreat is for women who -

  • Are ready to focus on their own pleasure and enjoyment

  • Are looking to be inspired

  • Want to move their bodies in a way that feels good and be fully embodied

  • Want to connect with other delightful women in a meaningful way

  • Are committed to honoring themselves

  • Are ready to let their light shine, feel great and live a life they truly love!

What you will experience

  • Daily yoga lead by Nikki

  • Daily workshops with Julie – We will explore pleasure, sensuality, honoring our wants and needs, passion, turned on living, and more. Workshops will include: education, inspiration and space for sharing and dialogue with the group. Magic happens when you get a group of women together. It’s in the space of a group that we learn we are not alone. It’s in the space of a group that you can really be seen and understood.

  • Excursions to attractions in Tuscany (wine tasting, an afternoon in Lucca, cooking lessons, and more)

  • Free time to relax at our private villa (enjoy the pool, the many indoor and outdoor sitting areas, or explore the countryside)

  • Time with an intimate group of women where you can talk about your experience and what you want in your life (this retreat is limited to 14 women)

You can read more about the retreat (and all the delicious details) here!

Gathering on retreat isn’t about escaping your life. We gather in this beautiful location as a way to pause, center, fill up and then bring that luscious energy back to our lives. Our goal is that you will leave this retreat feeling nourished, engaged, inspired and Vibrant!

PS Nikki and I will be answering all of your questions on a Facebook Live January 26th – you can find all of the details on my Facebook Page.


October 16, 2018

How do you tend your erotic fire?

How do you keep the romance, intimacy and passion alive in your relationship?

passionate couple

I like to call this energy your erotic fire. It’s that passionate and connecting energy between partners.

And if you know anything about a fire, it needs to be tended. It needs to be fed and cared for, because once the fire goes out completely it takes more energy to get it started again.

The erotic fire acts as a thread between sexual encounters. It can help you and your partner feel connected. If there is no erotic fire in a relationship it can take a lot of energy for one or both partner to show up sexually. Without an erotic fire it can feel like you have to go from zero to sixty when you initiate sex. With the erotic fire there is already warmth and connection there and it’s much easier to create sexual heat.

How do you tend the erotic fire in your relationship?

Do you flirt?
Send a sexy text?
Plan a romantic date or getaway?
Compliment your partner?
Take a class, read a book or go to counseling?
Make out (without the expectation of sex)?
Make time for emotional intimacy?
Snuggle?
Communicate about sex?
Woo each other?
Set aside time for just the two of you?

And what about your own erotic fire? How do you connect to your own sexual energy?

Here are some things you might try to connect to your own erotic energy.

Reading erotica
Yoga or Dance
Get to know your body and what feels good
Dressing in a way that makes you feel sexy
Practicing Sensuality
Using Mindfulness so you feel present
Masturbation
Prioritize Pleasure

Sometimes when we are stuck in the routine of life, or the stress of life, it’s easy to ignore our own erotic energy or the erotic fire in our relationship. Luckily it only takes a spark to start that fire (and then a little bit of energy to lovingly tend it)!


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August 19, 2018

Vibrant Living

vibrant living

What makes you feel alive?

What replenishes you and fills you up?

Are you living a life that energizes and excites you?

With everything going on in the world and so many things competing for our time and energy it’s easy to feel depleted. It’s easy to just go through the motions. But so many of us are wanting more. So many of us are wanting to feel more vitality, more joy, more connection…

Nikki Weaver and I are excited to announce our next one day retreat for women -

Vibrant Living

Together we will explore self-care, passion, pleasure and joy.

You’ll leave feeling nourished and connected and with a plan for living your own vibrant life!

Nikki will be leading us in yoga before and after our lunch break.

I’ll be asking questions and leading exercises to explore passion, presence and getting clear about what you want in your life.

There will be mindfulness, guided meditation, and a sound bath.

There will be time to share, to listen, to reflect and to connect with other women.

For lunch we’ll walk to a local restaurant to socialize and sit with each other in community.

We are so excited about this offering!

Nikki and I have been exploring what it means to live with presence, pleasure and purpose in our own lives. We are committed to living vibrant lives. In the last year we have been gathering with women and exploring these themes together. And we are excited to explore them with YOU!

Here are Some Logistics -

October 6th 10am-5pm

The retreat is limited to 10 women

The location is NE Portland. We will send you the address after you register.

The cost is $150

(lunch at a local restaurant is included)

This retreat is SOLD OUT!

This is our last retreat of 2018. We are so grateful for the women who have been gathering with us. If you are ready for a day of nourishment and connection we hope you will join us!


June 10, 2018

Wild At Heart: Fanning the flames of your inner fire

Wild at Heart

Nikki Weaver and I are excited to offer a full day women’s retreat this summer!

After our last two gatherings the feedback we received is that people want more – more movement, more time, more exercises, more connection.

In response, we’ve created:

Wild at Heart: Fanning the flames of your inner fire!

Together we will explore passion, love, connection and tending our own inner fires.

Nikki will be leading us in yoga before and after our lunch break. She’s promised to make us sweat and also lead us in a heart-centered practice.

I’ll be asking questions and leading exercises to explore passion, getting clear about what you want and feeling more alive and turned on in your life!

There will also be a foot soak, a fire ceremony and a sensual walk.

And we’ll be taking a lunch break together during the middle of the day to socialize and sit with each other in community.

We are so excited about this offering!

Here are Some Logistics -

July 28th 10am-5pm

The retreat is limited to 12 women

We’ll have snacks and drinks and will be having lunch together.

The location is NE Portland. We will send you the address after you register.

The cost is $150

We’re so excited to channel the heat of summer to experience more passion, self-love and deeper connection. Join us for a fun, fulfilling and fiery Saturday!

Registration is closed. Subscribe to my free newsletter to receive updates about our future offerings.



January 19, 2018

Be Your Own Beloved: a gathering for women

be your own beloved

Nikki Weaver and I are thrilled to offer – Be Your Own Beloved!

Together we’ll explore what it means to love, honor and cherish ourselves!

One of the things we hear over and over from women is that it is so hard to prioritize yourself. Maybe you don’t have time or energy. Maybe you feel guilty or selfish. Maybe you are just too tired or depleted. Perhaps you don’t even know what it means to prioritize yourself. We get it. We know it can feel hard or even foreign to really focus on yourself (and asking you to do more than prioritize yourself, but treat yourself like you are beloved, may even feel scary!)

We also know the power of self-care, self-acceptance and self-love! We know that amazing things happen in your life when you love yourself and honor yourself. And we know the power of gathering a group of women! We know how validating and life-giving it is to sit with other women and laugh or cry or listen or share and hear, “me too!” or “You are not alone!”

Powerful things happen when we gather. Beautiful things happen when we gather. We are so excited to gather with YOU!

Together we will explore –

Self-care, self-love, self-acceptance – what do they all mean and how do you do them?

Being in your body and feeling pleasure in your body

What it means to be your own BELOVED

Light movement and exercises that will help you delight in your own body

Exercises and practices to help you honor your own wants and needs and treat yourself like the precious woman you are!

A Few Logistics –

April 21st from 11am-3pm

This event is limited to 12 women

We will have snacks and drinks

The location is NE Portland. We will send you the address after your register.

The cost is $100

Registration is closed. Subscribe to my free newsletter to receive updates about our future offerings.

What would it be like to also attend to your own wants and needs? What would it be like to prioritize yourself and your pleasure? What would it be like to be your own beloved?


January 19, 2017

Awaken the Want

Turned On FINAL sans dates - lorez

Awaken the Want
and evening of exploration and storytelling
with Isabel Abbott and Julie Jeske

an evening of heeding the hunger and permission to want
and of finding the words to speak of all the things we are told to keep quiet.
of entering into the wide range of experiences in the geography of desire and arousal,
wanting and consent, giving and receiving.

There will be time to ask and enter into your questions,
reflect on your own embodied experiences and the languages of desire.
We will be listening to the space where the body and voice connect,
and what it feels like to locate our own self in our sexuality and experiences,
We will eat delicious food and sit in a safe space and begin to tell our stories.

And we would oh so love to have you there.
Thursday, May 4th
6-9pm

Portland, OR

Registration is closed – subscribe here if you want to be informed of future events.


December 3, 2016

Make it sensual

sensuality

One of the fastest and easiest way to prioritize pleasure and be present is to embrace sensuality.

Sensuality isn’t a synonym for sex (though sex can be sensual). Sensuality involves tuning into your senses.

What do you see, smell, taste, feel or hear?

Tuning into your senses pulls you out of your head and into your body.

An easy way to practice sensuality is to take something you already do and make it sensual.

Try focusing on your senses when you shower. A shower is a wonder place to engage your senses because so many of your senses are being stimulated.

Feel the water against your skin – notice the pressure and the temperature

Use a soap or shower gel that entices your sense of smell

What do you notice as your hands move over your body? What feels good?

You can also connect to your sensuality when you eat – notice colors, textures, flavors. I love to take walks as a way to be present and engage my senses.

I don’t expect every moment of your day to be pleasurable or sensual. Life is busy and sometimes challenging. However, if you can find something you are already doing and make it sensual you will feel more connected to you body, your pleasure and the present.


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September 20, 2016

What lights you up?

Photo by Beth Martin

Photo by Beth Martin

There is something that happens for me in Paris.

As soon as my shoes hit the cobblestone, I’m reminded of a version of myself that I adore. More than reminded, I’m transported.

It’s easy to access pleasure there with the flowers spilling out of tiny florist shops and beautiful people embracing or kissing on the corner. I smell rotisserie chicken and roasted potatoes. There are performers making music on the metro. The church bells ring out every half hour. There is history and romance and beauty. And even when things are hard; if I’m carrying a three year old and her stroller through a crowded metro station and I’m sweating and it smells like urine…I’m snapped back into my pleasure place when I climb the stairs and see the cobblestone, the ornate buildings, the roses and the blue sky.

For me Paris is a pleasure activator.

It is a place that easily and quickly activates my pleasure.

I don’t have to think about it or force it or wrestle with it. Pleasure comes easily to me in Paris. I know I’m not the only one. Many people love Paris. But I’ve also met people how don’t resonate with Paris. So Paris is not universal. But pleasure is.

What are your pleasure activators. What easily connects you to your pleasure?

The dictionary definition of pleasure is – a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment.

So what consistently makes you feel happy satisfaction and enjoyment?

Your work?
Your home?
Your partner?
Sex?
Time out with friends?
A massage?
Dance?
Vacation?
A holiday?
Time in nature?
A place?
Making art?
Music?
Sports?

Here are some prompts to help you discover one (or more) of your activators.

Where do you feel most alive?
What time of year excites you? Why?
If you could be doing anything in this moment, what would it be?
When are you most lit up?
How do you like to be touched?
What are you passionate about?
Write a few sentences about a time in your life you felt really, really good! Where were you? What were you doing? Who were you with? What did you wear?
What are you top 5 ways to have fun?
What turns you on (sexually and also what turns you on in your life)?
What was your favorite vacation?
Write about your ideal day. How would you spend your time? Where would you be? Tune into your senses – what would you smell, taste, hear, touch or see?

Look at your list. What do you notice? Any repetition? Any good reminders?

Look for a possible activator. It might be a place or an event or a spiritual practice.

If you know your activator, explore some ways you can engage it. If it’s a destination you might not be able to go there right now, but could you look at photos from your last trip? Could you read your journal from that time? Or go to a restaurant that serves food from that region? If it’s an activity, when is the last time you did it? Maybe it’s a way you feel. If so, what makes you feel that way? How can you recreate it? If it’s a holiday or time of year, can you create some anticipation for that time to come again? Or can you explore what it is that most excites you (temperature, colors, warm sweaters, tank tops, scents) and can you find ways you bring those things into your life now?

Knowing your pleasure activator gives you a direct line to pleasure. And that is a very good thing!


If you need a little help giving yourself permission for joy and pleasure, I created a free 4-page e-book, Permission for Pleasure.

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July 27, 2016

Be in your body

Dancing

Are you connected to your body?

Do you pause and check in with your body throughout the day? Right now, can you put your attention on your feet, your arms, you belly, you genitals? What do you notice?

So many of us are busy. We are over scheduled and under rested. We are running from one thing to the next and rather than slowing down and feeling our body, we are constantly in our heads thinking about what is next (or worrying about what we didn’t get done).

We are living in our heads and not our bodies.

It’s great to spend time in your head. It will help you balance your checkbook, remember to turn the stove off and drive your car to work.

Being in your head doesn’t help you feel joy, open to a spectacular sexual experience or dance with abandon! In fact. if you are in your head when you have sex or dance you will often be second guessing what you are doing – ‘How do I look right now? Is my partner enjoying this? Am I taking too long?’

If you are in your head, you are thinking (or worrying) about your experience rather than truly living in.

Being in your body helps you FEEL your experience. It allows you to open to pleasure, joy, passion or excitement.

One of the easiest ways to be in your body is to tune into your senses -

What do I feel, taste, hear, smell or see?

You can check in with your senses throughout the day or really focus on them when you are in your head but want to be in your body (this is a great tool to use during sex!)

Being in your body is a key ingredient for unbridled joy and great sex. It’s something that I’ve talked about at length in my Sensuous Woman Facebook group. If you would like to be part of a community with other women who are tuning in to pleasure, joy, self-care and sensuality, please join my private Facebook group.

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June 26, 2016

Sensuous Woman

Are you connected to your true sensual nature?

Do you even know what that means?

As women it’s easy to be pulled in many directions. You may wear many hats in your life. You may have many roles.

And maybe you have compartmentalized parts of yourself. If you are a mom you may be used to prioritizing others’ needs. If you work outside of the home, you may have shut off that sensual part of yourself so you are taken seriously in the workplace. In general, woman are bombarded with messages about who or how they should be.

Be sexy – But not too sexy!

Take care of yourself – but don’t be selfish!

Be a lady – but not too sensitive.

There are so many ideas about how you SHOULD be. I’m more interested in who YOU ARE!

When you slow down and connect to yourself and your body – what do you want? What feels good? What lights you up? What makes you feel beautiful? What turns you on? What brings you joy or makes you want to dance?

sensuous woman

I’ve created a FREE 5-day class to help you connect to your sensual nature and answer the above questions. If you are ready to embrace your sensuality, your joy and your pleasure – please join me for the Sensual Woman Soiree! It’s a free 5 day virtual event, just for you! If you sign up below, you will get an email each day of the soiree. The email will share videos, information and activities to cultivate pleasure and sensuality. And I’ve also created an optional private Facebook group so you can connect with other women who are also embracing their own sensual nature.

Now is your time.

Are you ready to join the party?

Yes! I want to join in

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