http://www.juliejeske.com Intimacy | Relationships | Sexuality Sun, 05 Feb 2012 02:22:54 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Are you killing yourself trying to be the perfect parent, partner, sibling, daughter, worker, crafter, friend, or lover? Is your perfectionism serving you? Perhaps it is inspiring you to aim high…and maybe it’s just causing you to pull out your hair (or feel like a loser when you don’t reach your goals). My ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2012/02/perfection-or-bust/ Tonight I hosted a workshop about sex and shame.  I am always amazed by and grateful for the way these workshops unfold.   Shame can be a powerful force in people’s lives and when you add it to the sexual realm (something people rarely talk about it) it can feel paralyzing. When ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2012/02/letting-go-of-sexual-shame/ This time of year invites reflection and resolutions.  Less than 2 weeks into the new year, many people are still gung-ho about the changes they are finally going to make this year.  The year of weight loss!  The year of finding a relationship!  The year of getting a dream job!  ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2012/01/your-best-relationship/ I am so excited about this new group I am offering.  If you've been visiting this blog for a while, you know I am working on a book about women's sexuality.  This group is based on the same work.  I made a video to better explain what the group is ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2011/12/sexy-tiger/ [caption id="attachment_1388" align="aligncenter" width="358" caption="Making a wish at the Portland Grotto 2010"][/caption] When I think about my very favorite parts of this time of year, it’s all about connection. Whether I think of the time building up to the big event, or I picture Christmas morning with my family, my favorite ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2011/12/all-about-connection/ Amidst all of the holiday hustle and bustle your relationship may have gotten lost in the shuffle.  It’s easy to focus on shopping lists and to do list this time of year.  If you have a to do list, take a moment to write “Focus on my relationship” right on ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2011/12/focus-on-your-relationship-this-holiday/ As you are shopping for others, baking for others, running errands for others, wrapping presents for others, cleaning and cooking and decorating for OTHERS – you might think there isn’t time for YOUR needs during the holiday. You might have to make time for yourself this season.  You might have ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2011/12/get-what-you-want-even-during-the-holidays/ For many the holidays are a time of joy, frivolity and celebration.  For others, this time of cheer and mistletoe really brings home feelings of loneliness or grief. The holiday season can be really hard if you’ve recently gone through a break up. Cozy evenings, holiday parties and fantasies about special ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2011/12/will-have-a-blue-christmas-without-you/ Sometimes people come to my office because they have questions about sex or they want to make their sex more pleasurable, more exciting or just want it to feel “better.”  I often hear, “I feel like I should know this by now” or “I feel too old to be asking ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2011/12/you-are-never-too-old-for-some-sex-education/ It’s the most wonderful time of the year!  Or is it? Now is the time when people often become overwhelmed with mile long To Do lists.  People start running around decorating and over-schedule their planners with holiday engagements.  Not only is it hard to find time to focus on your ... http://www.juliejeske.com/2011/12/holiday-stresses/