How do you want to be wooed?
What are the things that make you feel special in a relationship?
What feels romantic?
Or flirty?
Or fun?
Or loving?
Are there things your partner used to do to make you feel loved or desired?
Are there things you wish your partner would do?
People often put time and energy into wooing and romancing a potential mate as a way to get into a relationship…but then once the relationship is secured they put less energy in.
That is often when we most need that kind of attention. That is when we are dealing with the mundanity of life. We may be overwhelmed with work, kids, bills, heath concerns…that is when romance can help lift us up, remind us that we are loved and desired.
How do you know that your partner is into you or thinking about you?
Do you like –
love letters
a flirty text
a thoughtful gift
a romantic date
to be greeted with a kiss
a special look or touch
a night away
making a meal together
dancing in the living room
going out to an event together
having your partner share a song that reminds them of you
being surprised with a sexy encounter
hearing about how much you mean to them
What makes you feel loved and special? And how do you let your partner know they are loved and special too?
Just because you’ve been together “forever” doesn’t mean there isn’t room for romance or flirtation. After you’ve been together for a while that kind of energy may not always come without a little thought or effort though. That’s OK. It doesn’t mean your partner doesn’t care about you (or you don’t care about them). Life is often complex and full. Create some time and space to communicate about what you both would love and then commit to wooing each other.
About the author
Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion, and deepen their connection to themselves and others.
Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
Join her membership community, Love Lessons, listen to her weekly podcast, Swoon, or meet her on instagram.
