A Single Person’s Guide to Surviving Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day can be tough. Partners can feel expectations and disappointment. And on this “day for lovers” single folks can feel longing or loneliness.
If you are single on Valentine’s Day – you don’t have to spend your time at home feeling sad. You can use this time to focus on yourself rather than another person. What would it be like to celebrate yourself?
Here are a few things you can do on Valentine’s Day?
Treat yourself the way you want a lover to treat you – Do you want a fancy dinner, a new piece of jewelry, a massage or a lovely bath? What’s stopping you from having those things? If you are single, you still deserve to feel special and good about yourself. Why not write a love letter to yourself? Or go buy a new toy for some special “alone time.”
Spend time with someone you care about – You don’t have to spend the day alone. You can get together with a friend or a family member.
Try a fun event – Look for singles events in your area. Valentine’s Day might be a great time to get out in the world and meet someone new. If you aren’t into the singles scene, you can still do something fun. Look for a Galentine’s Day event, check out local music or theatre or take a class (your local sex toy store may have some fun options and then when your friend brags about her amazing dinner you can brag about learning about your G-spot!)
There is no right way to spend Valentine’s Day. You don’t even have to celebrate it at all. What you don’t want to do is dread it or feel shame because you don’t have romantic plans. You can make this Valentine’s Day very special just by celebrating yourself.
About the author
Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion, and deepen their connection to themselves and others.
Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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