January 29, 2021

Heart Tending Workshop

Are you ready to feel more connected to your heart and to yourself?


I’m excited to collaborate with Nikki Weaver for a special two hour event just in time for Valentine’s Day.

Heart Tending Workshop with Nikki and Julie

February 12th

4pm-6pm Pacific

via Zoom

Nikki will lead us in hour of movement

And I will lead an hour of prompts, exercises and tools for self-care, self exploration and self love.

We know it’s easy to feel disconnected and burnt out right now. We want to make it easy for you show up and feel nourished and replenished.

Register Here

If you’ve joined us for workshops before, this will be a little different because it’s shorter and you won’t be expected to share with the group. We’ve heard from many people that they want space to slow down and tools to replenish themselves. And that they are also a little “over-zoomed” these days. We created something that you can do with little prep and also a place where you can show up as you are. This workshop doesn’t require anything but your attention. You don’t even have to turn your zoom camera on 😉

Once you register, you’ll received the details for our zoom call.

We are so excited to join you in the comfort of your own home for some sweet connection and restoration.

 

Filed under: Community,Intimacy,Pleasure,Self-love,Sensuality,Support,Workshop — admin @ 8:14 pm

November 1, 2020

The Pleasure and Presence Series 

The Pleasure and Presence Series 

with Julie Jeske and Nikki Weaver

 

Join us for a 12 week series beginning November 8th.
Things are hard right now. So many of us are struggling..feeling overwhelmed….feeling isolated…feeling a bit hopeless.
We know that it’s easy to feel disheartened or to want to numb out or climb under the covers for the next few months.
We want to connect with you during this time. We want to gather (virtually) and share and support each other and even look for ways we can find pleasureand joy amidst the heaviness. Pleasure builds resilience. And in order to feel pleasure we have to show up, be present and feel what is true.
For 3 years we have been gathering with women to explore what it means to live vibrantly and with an open heart. We know that we need this work now more than ever. For 12 weeks we will help you connect to your heart and your body, be present, explore pleasure and you know we’ll bring a little sass humor to the mix too!
For twelve weeks you will hear from us every week with tips, tools, lessons and practices. 

Once a month you’ll join us for a live three hour Zoom session (connection, movement, and meaning).

Here’s what you get:
-a weekly email full of pleasure practices, and a meditation or movement sequence to bring you into more moments of presence in your body, mind, and heart. We will tailor the messages each week to meet the needs of the specific space and time we are in and the specific group we are gathering with. That means it will be tailored to YOUR wants and needs.
-a monthly 3 hour Zoom session to join us in real time as we focus on process, decompressing, and how to integrate pleasure and presence into our lives during challenging times (covid, the election, the approaching holidays, and preparing for 2021). We will walk the talk and level with you, share with you, and offer self care, wellness, and healthy creative habits that have allowed us to become more resilient.
-a small community to connect with during our monthly class. In addition to Nikki’s yoga and Julie’s lesson there will be time and space to share and connect with others in the groups
-something to look forward to. One of the things we keep hearing from other people (and feeling ourselves) is a lack of something fun on the horizon. Every month you will have half of a Saturday that is YOURS. Every week you will have questions to explore, practices to try and themes to integrate into your own life.

While we’ve been doing this work together for 4 years, we’ve been in our individual fields for a decade and a half. We have so much we want to share with you. We are passionate about the work we do, the relationships we create and the world we live in.

A few more details – 

Cost: $450 (9 hours of live content, weekly emails, monthly yoga).
Live online classes meet on Saturday’s from 9am-noon Pacific on November 21, December 19, and January 16, 2021.
We are keeping the group intimate with a minimum of 7 and maximum of 15 women.
12 weeks of pleasure and presence. 12 weeks of prioritizing yourself. 12 weeks of connecting with others. 12 weeks of movement and self-care. It’s going to be so, so good!
Registration is closed.

February 26, 2020

Vibrant Living

vibrant living

What makes you feel alive?

What replenishes you and fills you up?

Are you living a life that energizes and excites you?

With everything going on in the world and so many things competing for our time and energy it’s easy to feel depleted. It’s easy to just go through the motions. But so many of us are wanting more. So many of us are wanting to feel more vitality, more joy, more connection…

Nikki Weaver and I are excited to announce our next one day retreat for women –

Vibrant Living

Together we will explore self-care, passion, pleasure and joy.

You’ll leave feeling nourished and connected and with a plan for living your own vibrant life!

Nikki will be leading us in yoga in the morning and movement or meditation in the afternoon.

I’ll be asking questions and leading exercises to explore pleasure, passion, presence and getting clear about what you want in your life.

There will be time to share, to listen, to reflect and to connect with other women.

For lunch we’ll walk to a local restaurant to socialize and sit with each other in community.

We are so excited about this offering!

Nikki and I have been exploring what it means to live with presence, pleasure and purpose in our own lives. We are committed to living vibrant lives. Our last Vibrant Living Retreat was in Italy and we’ve received numerous requests to gather with women in Portland too. 

Here are Some Logistics –

April 18th 10am-4pm

The retreat is limited to 12 women

The location is NE Portland. We will send you the address after you register.

The cost is $150

(lunch at a local restaurant is included)

This is our only Portland retreat scheduled for 2020. Join us for a day of nourishment and connection!


December 31, 2019

New Year’s Resolutions for Your Relationship

I love this time of year. For me it is full of time with my family, possibility, exploring dreams and desires, and hope.

It’s the time of year when you reflect on your life and what you want to change. Most of the time we create personal intentions or resolutions.

What about your relationship?

What do you want?

What would you like to leave behind in 2019 and what do you want to create or commit to in 2020?

Here are some intentions or goals to explore with your partner – 

  • Commit to a Date Night – Schedule some time together. You can get dolled up and go out on the town, go for a walk, or even spend some quality time at home together. The important thing is that you are making time for each other and making your relationship a priority.
  • Try something new – Trying a new activity or hobby can be exciting and it’s great if you two can share that excitement together. Check out a dance class, join an organization or even take a trip to your local adult toy store to pick up some new bedroom accessories.
  • Focus on the Positive – Sometimes relationships can get bogged down by negativity. We all like to feel appreciated and loved. When is the last time you told your partner how sexy he is? or how much you admire her? or how proud you are of them? Instead of focusing on what your partner isn’t doing, what would it be like to focus on what he is doing? It’s nice to receive compliments. It’s nice to feel appreciated. It’s nice to feel loved. What can you do this year (and for years to come) to make sure the positive interactions outweigh the negative in your relationship? You can make this tangible by creating a gratitude journal or a happiness jar together.
  • Learn some skills – Just like any other area of your life, relationships require energy and effort. Take a class on communication, commit to fighting fairly, work with a coach or therapist or read a book together. Put some energy into your relationship and watch it come back to you!
  • Make small rituals a priority –  You can increase intimacy and deepen your connection by focusing on small daily rituals. Start and/or end your day together, hug, kiss, talk about what’s on your mind or in your heart. I love this graphic from the Gottman Institute with more ideas about small ways to prioritize connection and intimacy.

This week’s Swoon also has strategies for reflecting on the past year and setting intentions for stronger partnerships in the coming year.

If you are feeling inspired and excited by the new year, take a little time to include your relationship on your resolution list. It’s doesn’t need to take a ton of time or more to shift things in a positive direction. You can focus on gratitude, more time together, turning up the heat in the bedroom or even choosing a word of the year for your relationship. Where you put your attention grows. Put your attention on your relationship in 2020 and feel your love expand!

Filed under: Change,Intimacy,Marriage,Relationship — admin @ 10:44 am

December 20, 2019

Come to Italy with me!

Join me and Nikki Weaver for a luscious and life-changing retreat in our own Tuscan Villa!

 

Vibrant Living – A Woman’s Retreat in Italy!

September 5-12, 2020

 

As you stand in the crystalline water you look to your right and see a friend reading a book on a lounge chair. To the left you see a trio of women doing yoga in the grass. You pause and notice the way the water feels against your skin. You move your hands, skimming the surface of the pool, drinking in the sensuality of the moment. A slight breeze makes the hair on the back of your neck dance around. You hear laughter in the distance and lift your face toward the sun feeling the heat warm your cheeks.

You pause and drink it all in before going back to your room to get ready for dinner. When you arrive at the table, you are greeted you with a hug and a glass of wine. You pass dishes of colorful and nourishing food as you talk about your day and the previous week. You talk about the adventures, the breakthroughs, the things you’ve learned, the gelato, the pleasure and the sacred moments. You look around the room and see each of these beautiful women lit up from the inside. You close your eyes and capture this moment. You want to bring this back home with you. You want to remember how alive you feel. You want to remember how beautiful you are. You want to remember this trip and all of the ways you have awakened and embraced pleasure.


Are you ready to feel good? Really, really good?

  • Are you ready for sensual living?

  • Are you ready to move your body in ways that feel enlivening?

  • Are you ready for delicious food?

  • Are you ready to name and honor what you want?

  • Are you ready to feel in love with yourself and with your life?

  • Are you ready for travel, adventure and transformative experiences?

  • Are you ready to gather in Italy with a group of wonderful women and embrace pleasure, presence and luscious living?

Why Pleasure?

Life is hard. It can be exhausting. As women we are often pulled in many directions and trying to do it all (and do it perfectly). Often your wants and needs and desire are not only put on the back burner, they are buried. There are too many other things competing for your time and attention.

Pleasure is “a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment.” When you connect to that satisfaction and enjoyment, the rest of life is easier. When you engage with pleasure you bring richness, vibrancy and joy into your life. Pleasure fills your bucket and gives you energy. Pleasure feels good. It lights us up.

This retreat is for women who –

  • Are ready to focus on their own pleasure and enjoyment

  • Are looking to be inspired

  • Want to move their bodies in a way that feels good and be fully embodied

  • Want to connect with other delightful women in a meaningful way

  • Are committed to honoring themselves

  • Are ready to let their light shine, feel great and live a life they truly love!

What you will experience

  • Daily yoga lead by Nikki

  • Daily workshops with Julie – We will explore pleasure, sensuality, honoring our wants and needs, passion, open-hearted living, and more. Workshops will include: education, inspiration and space for sharing and dialogue with the group. Magic happens when you get a group of women together. It’s in the space of a group that we learn we are not alone. It’s in the space of a group that you can really be seen and understood.

  • Excursions to attractions in Tuscany (wine tasting, an afternoon in Lucca, cooking lessons, and more)

  • Free time to relax at our private villa (enjoy the pool, the many indoor and outdoor sitting areas, or explore the countryside)

  • Time with an intimate group of women where you can talk about your experience and what you want in your life (this retreat is limited to 14 women)

You can read more about the retreat (and all the delicious details) here!

Gathering on retreat isn’t about escaping your life. We gather in this beautiful location as a way to pause, center, fill up and then bring that luscious energy back to our lives. Our goal is that you will leave this retreat feeling nourished, engaged, inspired and Vibrant!


October 24, 2019

What happens on a Vibrant Living Retreat?

I’ve been back from Italy for over a month and I’m still basking in the afterglow of that marvelous time. So many people have asked me what we do on retreat and I find myself having a hard time coming up with the right words.

We connect

We grow

We laugh

We move our bodies

We explore pleasure and joy and sensuality and presence and emotions and open-hearted living and desire and boundaries and naming our wants

We eat (we eat sooooo well)

 

We explore

I can tell you that before the retreat many of the participants told me that wanted to change in some way…and that as I was leaving the villa I felt transformed.

Powerful things happen when we gather in community and share and name things that are scary or exciting or vulnerable.

Here are some of the other things that happened on this Vibrant Living Italy 2019 Retreat.

 

We stayed at an incredible villa with a pool and a private chef.

Nikki lead us in yoga for an hour and a half every morning.

We named intentions for the week, created soul collages, pulled cards and also created a vibrant living playlist.

I lead classes.

People shared what was on their hearts.

We went wine tasting (at a vineyard owned by an incredible woman).

We took a few trips to nearby towns – visited churches and wandered down alleys and shopped and ate gelato.

We talked a lot about what we want – how to identify, the importance of naming it and how to move toward it.

I shared that this retreat was a big want of mine and it wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t said it out loud during a Portland retreat the year before. And later that day we headed to dinner at a restaurant in Lucca.

I had told some of the women about how much I love pistachio gelato and how excited I was to have it that afternoon. As we walked to the restaurant they asked if I had had my gelato and I oohed and ached about it. Ten minutes later we sat down at the table and the owner greeted us and looked at me and said, “You are going to love our special. Pistachio Pasta!” (of course I had it and I’m still dreaming about it!)

There were many moments like this that are not quantifiable. Sometimes magic happens on retreats.

There were so many beautiful moments and interactions that were influenced by the glorious combination of the 10 women who joined us.

I am changed. And I am forever grateful.

The experience was so powerful for both me and for Nikki that we’ve already decided to go back to Italy for Vibrant Living Italy 2020 next fall!

I’ll be sharing those details soon!


October 13, 2019

Tending a Broken Heart

The loss of a relationship, a job, friendship, a dream, a loved one, etc can be so painful!

It’s easy to want to shut down the pain or numb the experience. It’s easy to want to skip this part. It’s easy to want things to go back to the way they were before you felt this way.

We don’t always feel the growth or the expansion when we are in it. Sometimes the learning or the evolution is more obvious later…after we’ve moved through the pain. And in order to get there, we do have to move through the pain.

If you are finding yourself with a broken or tender heart, here are some things that may help.

Shutting down, disconnecting, or pretending you aren’t in pain doesn’t actually initiate healing…you may feel temporary relief, but the pain becomes encapsulated and continues to live in your body

Feel your feelings 
again and again

Do things that are good for you
move your body
take a bath
drink water

Get support
Be honest about your hurting
Let your people wrap you up in love and comfort

Check your stories
Don’t romanticize
Don’t villainize
Take accountability for your part

Get clear about what you want to bring with you and what you want to leave behind
Set some boundaries
You may have to change habits as you heal.
What do you need in terms of space?
What do you need in terms of time?

Be gentle with yourself.

Treat yourself the way you would treat someone you love

Be patient

It’s hard. I know.

Remember that this part is temporary.
And necessary

This part will lead to the next part.
And the next part is going to be LOVELY!

PS – if you are going through a breakup, our Swoon Episode – Breaking up is hard to do:Breakup Recovery may help.

Filed under: Break-up,Grief,Love,Self-care,Self-love,Support,Vulnerability — admin @ 9:32 am

May 22, 2019

May is National Masturbation Month!

Some people may shake their heads and wonder why we need a masturbation month at all.

Can’t you just masturbate when you want to? Of course! Every month can be masturbation month.

I can also tell you that there is still a lot of stigma and shame and judgment around masturbation.

In my office, even with folks who are willing to talk about partnered sex, sometimes when I ask about masturbation that feels too private or embarrassing to talk about.

There are many negative messages people receive about masturbation growing up…or there are some partners who have negative feelings about the role of masturbation in relationship…or there are some people who simply don’t know how to experience solo pleasure because so many of us are socialized to associate our pleasure with another person.

Having a month that celebrates masturbation is one way to normalize it. It’s one way to give people permission to explore it and embrace it. It’s one way to prioritize your own wants and needs and pleasure!

Read this if you want to learn more about why masturbation is good for you.

Or if you already comfortable with masturbation but want to celebrate Masturbation Month – try exploring new ways to experience solo pleasure or learn some thing new about your body.

Looking for some resources about how to masturbate? Check out –

How to Masturbate if you have a vagina

Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz

or OMGYes

Let Masturbation May inspire you to take your solo pleasure to the next level.

Filed under: Masturbation,Self-care,Self-love,Sexual Being,Sexuality — admin @ 2:53 pm

December 14, 2018

Vibrant Living: creating your year of love!

There is so much competing for our attention this time of year! The holidays often come with obligations and expectations. And while the new year can be exciting, it can also be overwhelming with resolutions and trying to make it the BEST YEAR EVER!

My dear friend Nikki Weaver and I have been talking a lot about how we want our lives to feel. We’ve been gathering and sharing and planning. We’ve been dreaming and setting goals. This past year we’ve loved co-facilitating retreats and circles of women and we wanted to start 2019 off with a special day long retreat where we create a year of love together!

joy and hope

Vibrant Living: Creating your year of love

Together we will explore our desires and intentions for 2019!

You’ll leave feeling nourished and connected and with a plan for living your own love-filled 2019!

What do you want this year?

How do you want to feel?

How do you want to stretch?

And how do you want to be supported?

Together we will dream and uncover and create and share.

This is a place you can share your wild fancies, your small wishes, your struggles and your fears.

Nikki will be leading us in yoga before and after our lunch break.

I’ll be asking questions and leading exercises to explore passion, presence, setting goals and getting clear about what you want in your life.

There will be time to share, to listen, to reflect and to connect with other women.

For lunch we’ll walk to a local restaurant to socialize and sit with each other in community.

We are so excited about this offering!

Nikki and I have been exploring what it means to live with presence, pleasure and purpose in our own lives. Not only that, together we have been taking risks and setting goals that make us gasp and watching our lives unfold in beautiful ways. We are committed to living vibrant lives. We are committed to living lives full of love. And we want to create lives full of vibrancy and love with YOU!

Here are Some Logistics –

January 26th 10am-5pm

The retreat is limited to 10 women

The location is NE Portland. We will send you the address after you register.

The cost is $150

(lunch at a local restaurant is included)

Registration is currently closed. Please send an email to julie@juliejeske.com for more information.

Let’s start the year off by carving out time for ourselves and our wants. Together we can set ourselves up for a year of love!

Filed under: Uncategorized — admin @ 9:59 am

November 9, 2018

Simple ways to start a gratitude practice

I know things are hard for many people right now. I also know that during the month of November there is a lot of talk about gratitude. Some people participate in 30 Days of Thanks and post daily gratitude on social media. Some people have their own personal or family traditions that center around gratitude. For the last two years my daughter and I have created a Gratitude Wreath during the month of November.

gratitude wreath

We start with a large circle and a bunch of leaves that we cut out of paper. And every day we each write down something we are grateful for on one leave and then by the end of the month we have a wreath full of thanksgiving and happy memories!

I know that gratitude doesn’t “solve everything.” Gratitude doesn’t erase pain. Gratitude doesn’t cancel out heartbreak. Gratitude doesn’t make everything better. However, I often feel better when I make space for gratitude. Gratitude can give us perspective and it can also improve our mood or help us feel less hopeless.

Here are some ways you can start a gratitude practice –

  • Do 30 Days of Thanks (or something similar) – name what you are grateful for every day for 30 days.
  • Keep a gratitude journal –

You can do this alone by writing down 1-3 things you are grateful for each day. Or you can do it with your partner. Creating a gratitude journal with your partner can be a great way to highlight what is working in your relationship and your love and appreciation for each other, even when things are hard.

Use a notebook or journal and each taking turns writing something every day. Write about gratitude you feel for your partner or gratitude for your relationship. You can write big things, small things, silly things, sexy things, specific things – anything you are thankful for. On days when you are frustrated or angry with each other, notice if you can still find something you are thankful for.

As you move forward with this, you’ll end up with a large list of things you are grateful for and things your partner is grateful for. If you are feeling sad or frustrated you can read some of the entries to remind yourself of how you have both felt…or on special days or anniversaries you can reread your entire journal.

Start small. Choose one thing you can do every day. Or choose to start with a limited time (one week, 30 days, three months, etc). And notice how you feel as you start to take inventory of the things (or people) you are thankful for!

Filed under: Family,Gratitude,Presence,Relationship,Retreat — admin @ 2:23 pm

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